I was looking for something to write about. I had no idea what I wanted to rant about and piss you kids off with. So I logged onto my Tumblr for the first time in weeks and started looking at all the photos my friends had posted on it.
I found this picture. This is a scene from the movie 500 Days of Summer. I think this may be my most hated movie and the sad part is that I don't even hate it for the plot or story. I thought the movie was done excellently. I hate the movie because of Summer... Zooey Deschanel's character.
Her character may have been the Anti-Christ incarnate. From the minute she appeared on the screen, I knew that poor/pathetic Joseph Gordan-Levitt's character was doomed. He was destined for misery with this girl's CHOSEN indecisiveness.
Now I say chosen because she obviously didn't love him but was just comfortable with his presence and affection. In essence, she was using him. He loved her and she didn't love him. It's as simple as that. She should have cut it off before it got any worse. But nope, her lack of self esteem and poor opinion of herself needed that constant pick-me-up until she just couldn't stand the guy anymore.
In my opinion... this is the definition of a selfish bitch. But call her what you want. I felt so bad for the guy and I empathized and even could relate to the depressed schmuck.
Even in this picture you can see it. She knew what she was doing from the very beginning. Do people (boys and girls for you female readers who hate me!) have such terrible confidence issues these days that they need a person / parasite for their life to make everything better? This goes for Joseph Gordan-Levitt's character as well. He fell head over heals in love with this girl and got screwed because he thought that she would just heal the sick and resurrect the dead in his life. Wrong!
Both of these characters pissed me off severely. Mostly her because I still do not understand the female enigma, but him as well for his lack of guard and control. Maybe it was because I completely related to him at one point and saw myself.
I do know a lot of people who do this though. They stay in relationships that are unbalanced just to make their lives feel a little better, even though they know that something is wrong. People once again need to vocalize and use their mouths / brains.
What do you think of this movie and it's portrait of terrible relationships?
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I thought that the scenario depicted was pretty dead on, but I thought the movie was fucking retarded, at least the ending. I mean, what a SHIT ending.
that is all.
The only thing that really bothered me about the movie was the length of time between her breaking things off with him and than low and behold like 3 months later or something, she's getting married?...when she was SO anti marriage because of her parents. I agree though..she screwed him over and it pissed me off..but I still love the movie sadly enough
I thought it's a great movie because it isn't like all the generic flicks. It shows that humans have flaws and own issues to work out. Through failures, we become stronger and better. He was trying to look for a way to complete himself, he saw the answer as Summer. The genre of romance seeks to offer compensation for the deprivation that modernity brings in the form of that one special connection with someone. With said connection, you'd feel like you were a part of something bigger and more important - something transcendent and in a commercial-free zone.
I loved this movie. Having said that, I do agree that she was a bitch. I think that this movie is the story before an actual love story. All good relationships have some shitty relationship before and this was his. His head was shoved so far up Summer's ass he didn't even notice how horrible their relationship was & what else was around him.
@ohletitbe@xanga - yeah, bad ending.
also, yeah...i understand hating summer, but i kind of can't too much because i have been in this situation in basically every relationship i have been in. i have intimacy issues and really do not like the closeness and oneness of a relationship after like...a week. it's as if i'm allergic to them...even if i really like the guy, so i don't know if i'm like summer or what. one big difference is i will actually tell the guy about how i am if i notice things progressing, and i wouldn't let it go on that long.
but i also hate it when someone strings someone else along for selfish reasons. then again, i don't think i can say summer was necessarily doing that. it could have been a lot more complicated, plus breaking someones heart is extremely difficult. but nonetheless, people have to take responsibility for their actions and she should have made things clear sooner.
lol if anyone hasn't seen this movie someone should warn ppl from the comments. SPOILERS!
luckily i have seen the movie so continuing on...
i feel like the movie was good. it is what it is. they tell you right off the bat this isn't a love story.i'm sure this happens in real life. if only ppl got a warning before they entered into a new relationship that it wouldn't be a love story. the only thing is, i'm not always so sure ppl would heed the warning anyway.
glad to know im not the only one who disliked this movie.
Thanks God. I JUST had to eject the disc after being tortured by their on-and-off and apparent-but-not-yet-so "relationship." It just kept going back and forth, and I kept thinking to myself that I missed something in the middle of this movie. At some point, I literally had to start over to see if it'd make more sense. I didn't even have the strength to finish the movie after Summer disappeared! The plot wouldn't be that bad, if the acting and the playscript were a bit more creative. It's a shame that people always compare this movie to "Internal Sunshine of a Spotless Mind," which is a classic.
I agree with @mysteriousmistresss@xanga in that it was not the love story so much as the story before the actual love story. I mean, lots of people go through things where they think some other person is everything they need but the other person doesn't care about them. If we're lucky, we learn from such heartbreak, among other things, that another person can't fix us and that it isn't worth it being with someone who loves you so much less than you love them. We have to work out our own tangles and then find someone who loves us back.
I loved this movie because it was real. i'm so sick of seeing romance movies that make love conquer everything and everybody overcomes their personal hang ups and blahblahfuckinblah. It's so overdone and annoying, and not at all realistic. love does NOT conquer all. and i was very happy to see a movie that showed you had to go through some serious shit to get to someone good. (:
i thought the movie was alright, but i totally agree ... Summer is a bitch.
yeah, Summer's a bitch, but Tom KNEW from the beginning that she didn't want a real relationship and he still chose to be with her, even though they wanted different things. The best part about this movie is that it's somewhat realistic as the characters don't end up together.
that picture above isn't a scene from the movie. FYI.
I completely disagree with you. I actually loved the movie, because it was so realistic. And yea, many people think Summer was a bitch for leading Joseph Gordan-Levitt (oh he's so sexy) on, but I think she was just trying to be real, in a semi-not so great way. I don't think she was leading him on to be evil, I think she was trying to give him a fair amount of time in which she could determine whether she loved him or not. Towards the end when she was engaged, ok so yea, that might have a been misleading. But when a girl realizes she's in love with someone else, she has to go for the person who'll make her happiest. And it just so happens wasn't Joseph Gordan-Levitt.
@mysteriousmistresss@xanga - ya i agree on the story before an actual love story. without a bad experience, people would never really cherish their present relationship. i liked this movie though, i saw it on a plane haha.
i hated the movie because it was so true and related to my life so much. if it didnt remind me of my own life, i would have liked it
that "oh i'm autumn" shit pissed me off.
I don't think she was using him when she told him in the beginning that she doesn't believe in true love and doesn't want a relationship. he is just a love sick fool, who likes to chase hard to get cute bitches and hope she changes her mind. they were made for each other for the time being but their expiration date was 500 days.
Now, I don't think I wanna watch this..just because of that character..>..> ; I just can't stand bitches...in real life or any fictional representation. I can't relate to that girl..because I've never been like that..though I've known girls to be like that and even guys..wtf indeed.
Even if it's a good money..it makes me too sad to watch this..
I was kind of in a situation like this recently.
I never wanted to get married or have kids and I was casually dating this guy(Guy #1) who I was comfortable with, and got along with pretty well. I did not love him. We made this clear to each other.A week after I broke it off with Guy #1 I am with the man of my dreams(Guy #2). Suddenly, I want to get married to this man, I want to have a kid with him someday. He's my fiancé now and the feelings I have for him - words cannot begin to describe. I am blissfully happy with Guy #2.Guy #1 is devastated. He constantly is trying to text me, call me. He is begging me to be back with him. He says he loves me. He says he wanted to marry me. He goes as far to say that Guy #2 just wants in my pants. Oh, and I forgot to tell you. Guy #1 and I casually dated for a month and a half....not exactly 500 days.So when this movie came out you can understand why I would not exactly consider Summer a bitch.Love don't know logic my friend. And, I actually disagree with your assessment. I don't think Summer was a bitch at all. At the beginning of the movie the narrator says that her parents got divorced and she didn't believe in love. I think she really didn't understand what it meant to love someone so she was just giving it time to see if she loved him. She didn't know what it would feel like if she really wanted to be with someone. That happens, sometimes you enter a relationship because you think someone is attractive and interesting and then end up feeling like it's just not for you. And if you've never experienced what it's like to love someone, it's hard to tell the difference between comfort and affection and love. Because in the back of your mind you're thinking do I really love this person? Is this feeling love? I'm not quite sure? I think the movie was pretty great. Very excellent, very realistic portrayal.
it's my favorite movie. (:
It's a good movie, partly because there are sections rooted in reality. Love doesn't always win, and people often stay in crumbling relationships because they hope things will get better.
I have to disagree. They mentioned in the beginning the history of Summer's parents divorce & that she didn't believe in love. & she constantly told/reminded Tom that she only wanted something casual. And like someone else said, I don't think she really knew what love was. But Tom agreed to whatever relationship he put himself into knowing (because Summer told him) that she wouldn't love him & that it was not an actual boyfriend-girlfriend relationship. I liked Summer. If anything, Tom would annoy me because he comes off as the needy one. The one who is always wanting more. Who puts himself in the position of a poor-schmuck. He had a fair warning that what he wanted from Summer he was not going to get but he stayed.
But I still like this movie. It's the first movie I would actually call semi-realistic.
I haven't seen it yet but the previews already looked silly to me. But dude it couldn't have been any worse than When In Rome.. omg.