My friend Lisa and I were having a conversation about women paying when they are on a date. Lisa said that when a guy takes her to dinner she will offer to pay the tip, and I told her I usually do the same. Melonie, another girlfriend of mine says that she never pays or offers to pay when a guy takes her out on a date. If I call up a guy and say “Hey let’s go have sushi tonight” then I am the one paying, because I have called and asked him to hang out with me for the evening, and I would expect the same. Some women(and to ladies that are reading I did say SOME) will disagree with me and say that I have lost my mind! Never, ever pay for a date. A woman agreeing to it is like blasphemy to them.
A couple of days ago I went out with a guy and he paid for our dinner, so when we went to the movies I paid for his candy as well as my popcorn. My friend Melonie said that she would have not paid for the stuff at the concession, and I thought to myself why the hell not?
Some women feel the same way my friend does--that the man should always pay on the first couple of dates. Another girlfriend of mine said “After we've gone on a few dates and are moving towards establishing a relationship than I'm perfectly fine with paying the bill a few times or maybe even alternating." I can understand that, but if we went somewhere after dinner, to play some shuffle puck or grab drinks, I’m usually down to buy a round and I think there’s nothing wrong with that.
Personally I feel weird when a guy pays for everything all of the time. Don’t get me wrong I think I’m awesome and should definitely be treated out to a wonderful night, but if I think a guy is just as awesome then I think he should be treated once in a while. My friend Tom says “Definitely offer to pay if you asked the guy out, but if he leaps at the check, let him pay. He added that men still like to feel like men, especially when many of us are making more money than them, and they can find it a little intimidating.
That made me ponder an entire new question that you may find in a later post, but for now I want to know how you guys feel about letting the woman pay when going on a date?