Wednesday, 16 February 2011
Not to get overly sentimental, but our ex girlfriends do leave several traces behind after the relationship is no more. Whether you like it or not, and whether the split was your doing or her's, an ex-girlfriend's presence lingers like the taste of a chocolate cake-flavored burp. Or like the smell of a dead skunk on the side of the road. Wow, that was pretty grotesque, what I meant to say was it never really goes away. Although a bath in tomato juice would take care of the skunk, so that doesn't really make sense. Well, you get what I'm trying to say.
These traces are sometimes quite obvious. Pictures, notes, sentimental memories and whatnot can make you reflect whenever you catch a glance.
There's also gifts from that ex. My last girlfriend was a fashion major. I wore gym shorts to class every day, weather permitting of course. Needless to say she bought me lots of clothes. And of course I'm not going to throw them out; they are perfectly good clothes that make my ass look day-ummmm fine and really bring out the color of my eyes.
But, even more prevalent than these obvious examples are the little things. The subtle reminders of the way that person changed your life in ways you never really thought about. For example, I now use the same body wash and lotion that my ex did. And I always wrap my pint of ice cream in a paper towel, keeping my hands shielded from the cold and condensation. A few of the TV shows I now watch were introduced to me by my ex, and so on.
It could be as simple as an abbreviation from text messages, a sports team that you root for, or a shirt that you like to wear out because she told you that you look good in it.
I'm not trying to come off as a downer here. I think we should embrace this, and all the positive things these individuals have brought into our lives. If you think about it, life is all about interacting with and learning from your environment, so you should try to pick up something from every person you meet.
What aspects of your life still express your ex's influence? Do you view these as unfriendly reminders that should be repressed? A nostalgic shining of a good time in life? Or are you indifferent altogether?