Saturday, 12 February 2011
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Ladies, The Truth Is…
For so long, men have been considered dogs. The ones that are focused on getting as much nookie as they possibly can get from as many women as possible. It’s accepted within society and among men, and it doesn’t seem like it’s changing any time soon.But I must say that women in the past generation or two have changed what a cheater is. Some women today seem to “date” multiple men as they are not married and don’t feel that they should limit themselves to one guy at a time. The reasoning is also very repulsive, as most women would just say, “Hey, guys do it, too.”
The eye for an eye theory has never worked and will never work, especially in a relationship.
After the sexual revolution of the 1960’s, women and men have both become more open with the discussion and idea of sex.But has it gotten too far? Older folks become prude as they grow older and have children of their own but sometimes things go too far. Ashleymadison.com is a website that promotes having an affair with someone you meet on the site. It explains that it is healthy for a marriage when infidelity occurs.
That’s not saying the institution of marriage is the epitome of all that’s right in the world but a website like that represents the loads of distrust within todays man and woman. Feminism aside, there was once a time when women respected their men and would never attempt to sleep with someone else.
Settling down and getting married is not what this article is about, but meeting a girl at a bar and getting her number is even problematic in this day and age of diseases and multiple sexual partners.
Since the beginning of human kind, sex has been there. From slave masters’ wives sleeping with the slaves to nowadays when a grown man can take care of a kid that isn’t his, yet everyone knows that fact but him. Things like that example above happen every day in a world where the man is known as the dog but women do what they can to get back at us.
Do you feel that a relationship involving sex should be an honest one, no matter how fresh it is?
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Yes, any relationship, sexual or not, should be based on respect and honesty. While changes in society have freed women from "needing" a man for her basic survival and medical advances have freed us (almost) from unwanted pregnancies, all of which is good, in my opinion, none of this frees us from basic human decency. Nor do I hold that men should be free of basic kindness in relationships. People don't have to be married to have the obligation to treat each other with respect. Unfortunately, both genders often fail to do that. And I think that's sad.
It should be honest, expecially in defining if it is exclusive or open relationship. But that really doesnt happen in a perfect world. Men and women this day and age are horrid at the honesty thing. Most of the cheating on the women's part from what I hear in marriages & relationships is that thier SO isn't meeting needs emotionally, physically, etc...so they justify it (which is wrong) and some never fess up to the truth or even worse, had never expressed thier distaste for the situation and also omit the truth by not telling. Lying is lying, even by omission. If you arent happy, you should cut that person loose before you move onto the next person.
One of those same couples are jealous and cheat on each other all the time without telling the truth. There is a lot of distrust in that family and they are misrible.
Nah. you mean that "dating" is screwing, right?
I disagree wholly.
trust is needed for a relationship.
Infidelity only leads to the atrophy of a relationship, and its undoing.
"Feminism aside, there was once a time when women respected their men and would never attempt to sleep with someone else."
Since when does feminisim promote cheating on your partner?
It's not 'men' vs 'women' its just people, it's how they are. There are good people and bad people, and people in-between. Cheating is a horrible thing, as is encouraging somebody to cheat on their partner for you, but it has nothing to do with feminism or men/women 'doing what they can' to get back at eachother. People are responsible for their own actions and it should not be blamed on gender.
There is nothing wrong with dating more than one person at a time as long as they know about it. That's nothing new at all. And dating =/= sex, or necessarily cheating.
Besides, IMO, it's about time we start getting closer to sexual equality. I don't see anything wrong with women doing what they want with their bodies if it's the same thing men are doing. Cheating is wrong, but don't act like women are the only ones doing the cheating. Men and women are being cheated on all the time because it's what happened to them, etc. It's a vicious cycle, it's terrible. There is no excuse for cheating.FUCK. YES. i cannot stress enough how important honesty is to me and to other people i know!
Is this saying that men can sleep around but women cannot? Or is this saying that NO ONE should sleep around? Because if it's saying the latter then I agree.
No matter how old the relationship is or how fresh, there always has to be honesty in there. I hate cheaters so i don't do it myself. If I find a boyfriend of mines having a sexual relationship, or seeing another girl, it ends there.. or we try to fix it depending on how the relationship is.
Umm, ok it's not just women that cheat, buddy. In fact, i never cheat but have been cheated on by a few different guys. I know many women in this same predicament. Being a feminist sure as hell doesn't mean being a whore, either. Maybe the reason you can't get women to stay with you is because basically you came off sounding like a pig who believes men should be able to cheat & be friends with lots of women, but women aren't allowed the same right. If you ever get married, your wife is not your property. You do not have the right to tell her who she can & can't be friends with. If she's friends with a ton of guys & you're worried she's cheating, you shouldn't have married her because you have to trust someone before you can marry them.
This is why I'm a misanthrope. Everyone is a self-centered moron, except for those people whom I like.
The only time it's okay to "spread the love" is when ALL parties know, and are okay with it, like poly-amorous relationships. Personally the idea of it kind of irks me, and when I watched the episode about it on True Life and another documentary I forget the name of, I realized I was squirming the whole time on the couch trying to get comfortable. The idea makes me feel awkward, BUT, if that's what works for people, so be it. That's the only time it's okay in my opinion. And just like those poly-amorous couples have to be honest - everyone else does, too, to keep things secure and happy and keep feelings from getting hurt. It's kind of just common sense. But it doesn't always happen that way, which is sad. Everyone has their slip-ups sometimes, but I know people who do it consistently in every relationship and it just breaks my heart to see.
Yes, why am I required to explain this? Why is there an alternative debate to this?
Honesty is required for any kind of relationship.
Pretty sure i date - sometimes multiple guys. Doesn't mean i'm sleeping with all of them. Going to dinner and enjoying someones time is not a horrible thing. Also I do not expect to be the only one they are seeing until the talk happens.
I don't know if it is just me, but i don't think I can separate sex and love.
I cannot imagine myself having sex with someone I barely know (One night stand) or to actually cheat on my SO.
I think a relationship should be true and exclusive to only 2 people.
Of course, some have Open relationship and it works for them. But I would feel so jealous and all the time. I would be fuel by anger and revenge, how is that fair to the person i am cheating with?
Maybe I am just old fashionned, but I want to be the only girl for a guy too and have a guy all to myself, not to share with anyone.
I agree with the last question, and my answer is yes. I wish people would ask them selfs that more often.
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The point's not quite clear to me here... The last paragraph, makes sense, but for the most part, it sounds like you're saying that girls can't date more than one guy, even openly, when there is not a real commitment involved... and that the fact that "guys do it too" is a repulsive reason to do so?
If you mean... girls shouldn't date other guys behind their backs, and that most guys do not do that sort of thing, I understand.
You're basically making it sound like guys can live up to the stereotype and sleep around (even behind a girl's back) but girls must be prudes that respect their men. You're also making it sound like a girl that's promiscuous is more likely to pass an STD than a man that's promiscuous. Taking it this way: a girl who's only slept with one guy can still have an STD if that one guy happened to be a promiscuous guy.
Anyways... promiscuous guy=dog, promiscuous girl=whore. That's the way it's always been. And if you're point is that all guys are not dogs... well not all girls are whores, so make sure you choose a good one.
so basically women are doing it out of spite rather than not sticking with someone theyre unhappy with? ... teehee xD
"there was once a time when women respected their men and would never attempt to sleep with someone else."
what? No there wasn't.
i like how you say "this day and age of diseases and multiple sexual partners" as if this is a new thing.
"...there was once a time when women respected their men and would never attempt to sleep with someone else."
Seems to imply there was never a time when men respected their women.
I read this, but I still don't know what you're trying to say. You bash the double standard, but then bash women dating around too. Sorry, I'm lost.
Of course. If a couple cannot stick to the one-man-one-woman rule, trust is almost non-existent in their relationship. That's just my opinion.