Friday, 28 January 2011
I wrote a little while back about trusting my new significant other (SO), and I had a lot of questions about how you begin to trust someone enough to really let them in.
Well, dudes, that new SO has become my new boyfriend. He's sweet, charming, and a bit of a wise-crack. Combine that with being ridiculously smart and funny (and really nice on the eyes), and he's basically the full package for me.
Except he's not too technologically hip (aka: he's still got a flip phone), so we're yet to make this new relationship "Facebook official." It's only been three days... but three days? Really? But is being "Facebook official" important?
To me, kinda. To him, probably not so much.
Being the social media/networking/tech-obsessed person that I am, I like to have my life up-to-date according to my Facebook/Twitter/Foursquare/Xanga/LinkedIn accounts. When I get a new job, I post it; when I go to a restaurant, I check-in; when I add a friend on Facebook, I say hi. So when I get into a relationship, I like to have my ducks in a row with that too. But since he asked me out, shouldn't he be doing the adding?
There could be a thousand reasons why he hasn't done it yet, most likely being that it's not important to him. But if that's not the reason, there may be 999 more. Maybe he doesn't want his friends to know before he tells them personally. Maybe he wants to tell his family first before they find out online. Or maybe - and here's The Crazy Girl in me (even though I try to avoid her at all costs) - he's embarrassed and doesn't want people to know.
Now I know that last option is only like .00001% likely to be the reason. But that .00001% still lingers in the back of my mind.
The other reason that it's important to me is because being "Facebook official" offers proof to others. I've told a few people so far about my new relationship, and only one has believed me without a doubt. Others have said, "Well it still says you're single on Facebook, so..." Now it probably wouldn't be a big deal to me if it weren't such a big deal to the rest of the world, but since it is, I can't help but want to see that "In a Relationship" label on my profile.
So guys, what's the deal? Is this dude scamming me, or is it just that being "Facebook official" isn't as important to guys as it is to girls? I would think that he would want the other dudes I'm friends with to know that I'm taken, but if that's not the case, then I wonder what the delay is.
Guys - do you think that being "Facebook official" is important? Why or why not? How long would you be in a relationship with someone before you made it "Facebook official"?