It's been portrayed the same in almost every movie dealing with teenagers. You walk in and holding those infamous red cups, there's a house packed full of people dancing, chatting, and generally socializing. It's no secret that the word "party" means "to have inebriated sex" in Latin, but I've always wondered about a particular aspect of the inebriated sex life - drunken relationships.
What is a drunken relationship, you ask? Well, let me attempt to explain, you poor lonely neckbeard basement dweller. A drunken relationship is a relationship between two people that only occurs when at least one of the participants is intoxicated. Ideally, both participants are drunk or at least buzzed, because the former sometimes veers off into the no-no zone of a sexual assault charge because a certain girl can't accept the fact that she slept with someone while she was drunk. Anyway, I digress.
These two can often be seen all over each other at parties - whether in front of everyone, in the corner/backyard, or even through texts. Did we miss the update where they became Facebook official? I didn't know they started dating, they look like they're going to enjoy a good relationship. Just look at how much they're in to each other (no pun intended... yet)! Nope, you didn't fail in your Facebook stalking. You weren't out of the loop. Those two only realize their feelings for each other when they lose feelings in other parts of their bodies (such as the brain*).
What causes drunken relationships? I'm not really too sure - no one is, to be honest. Is it proof that, void of our moral inhibitions, we're a lot more "loving" than we'd like ourselves to believe? Are all the subliminal and societal stereotypes we see portrayed through medias finally being reflected in our desire to fulfill them? Perhaps it's something simpler. Maybe they just don't know what the fuck they're doing. All I want to know is what the other person is thinking the other ~250 days they're not in a D.R.
Readers: How do you feel about drunken relationships? What do you think causes them, or am I just a complete mess in the dating realm? Have you had any experiences with a drunken relationship?*Yes, I feel my brain, don't you?
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Hah. I've had drunken sex, but it's never lead to a romantic relationship after that. When people are inebriated, they have less inhibitions. I don't think people are more prone to "love" when they are drunk, just that they are less conscious of the small things that might otherwise have deterred them from that situation.
haha my husband and i were originally just a drunken relationship! for a few months, we only hung out when we were drunk, which was practically every day. neither of us remember our first kiss, or our first time having sex. classy, i know. then school started back up, we sobered up just a little bit, and realized, WOW we actually like each other without beer! what is this? haha it's a fun story for the kids someday. :)
@nyfemme@xanga - most of my relationships are drunken relationships. Hence why, sober, I feel I am so alone! ha
Sober is a such a lonely life to live.
"Drunken relationships," along with this post, are kind of pointless. It has nothing to do with dating, it has to do with drinking. Let's keep it real.
@modelgonemad@xanga - Incorrect. I wrote this based off some real life experiences and wanted to see what some of the readers of ManCouch had to say regarding the matter.
@betsy15@xanga - I highly suggest not telling your children it's okay to be wasted and make out with random people.
@ChaoyD@xanga - From a sociological perspective your individual experiences don't mean anything in the big picture. If you call sloppily making out with someone every time you get wasted a "relationship" I think you need to redefine what you consider dating.
@modelgonemad@xanga - oh woo, another person that's taken a pseudoscience and feels the need to share his or her prognosis of everyone. Who's to define what dating is? A submissive woman that obeyed every command of the husband was tradition for quite a while. Haters gonna hate.
@nyfemme@xanga -
@shinoseishi@xanga - interesting point. I left it a little open-ended because I wanted to see what responses I'd get, but my personal experiences are less in regard to hooking up in the sexual sense of the word. Still though, I enjoy reading different perspectives and views. Gives me something to do while I'm not practicing fake relationships.
@ChaoyD@xanga - "oh woo, another person that's taken a pseudoscience and feels the need to share his or her prognosis of everyone."
So you have a problem with college? I suppose it's not for everyone. Either way my point still stands.
"Who's to define what dating is? A submissive woman that obeyed every command of the husband was tradition for quite a while. Haters gonna hate."
I don't understand what the individual roles within a relationship have to do with whether or not it's a relationship. I believe that's called begging the question.
@modelgonemad@xanga - obviously i was joking.
@modelgonemad@xanga - Nah, no problem with college. I'm studying to become an engineer myself. Well, okay, I take that back, I have some qualms with college, but definitely not against the notion of higher education. Anyways..
How do individual roles NOT have to do with defining what a relationship is? Isn't that what gives definition to the term, or am I missing something...? I'm curious to know what you think defines a relationship. Is it a straight Merriam-Webster definition? A textbook-cited definition?
@betsy15@xanga - Some people don't though lol. It's not easy to tell!
@ChaoyD@xanga - An engineer? What type? Mech? Chem? Comp? I'm in computer engineering myself. Wouldn't recommend it actually. Where are you studying? Just don't make the mistake a lot of engineers (including myself) have made - trying to put yourself up on a pedestal above other majors/subjects. It actually doesn't make sense, and you just end up looking like a douche with a lot of self esteem issues. We're a bit beyond the past notion that sociological sciences are "pseudoscience."
And I suppose what I was getting at was whether or not the female is submissive or it's the male, whether or not which one loves the other more and whether or not the the man seems to take the lead in the relationship is irrelevant to the mere fact that they're in the relationship. It's very redundant.
To say that someone is submissive in a relationship already implies they're in a relationship. For two people who are just making out while drunk I don't consider that a relationship for a number of reasons. Firstly there's the issue with consent and being inebriated hardly puts you in a choice making position. Secondly there has to be a mutual understanding outside of the typical drinking nights that there is a significant connection between the two people that differs from any connection they may have with anyone else. I won't get into what makes a quality relationship or I'll be here all night however lastly, which I suppose supports the previous two, there has to be a balance of interest - clearly in every relationship someone is going to be more interested in the affair than the other, it's rarely equal. But it can't be so that one is completed interested and one isn't interested whatsoever.
I could go into more but I'm tired. Have a goodnight :)
@modelgonemad@xanga - As I thought, you misinterpreted my intentions on this post. Like I said in an earlier post, it was less emphasis on the hooking up aspect of the matter, and more on this strange phenomena of an actual "dating" relationship in the mentioned state. It was inevitable, however, that someone would assume the more common occurrence - an Occam's razor, I suppose.
I began as a computer engineer under the field of electrical engineering, but moved to software engineering. I wasn't ready for 5 project labs.
@ChaoyD@xanga - "As I thought, you misinterpreted my intentions on this post."
If someone misinterprets what you're saying simply be more clear, don't attack people like an ape. That's immature.
"I began as a computer engineer under the field of electrical engineering, but moved to software engineering. I wasn't ready for 5 project labs."
That's interesting, here the department of Electrical Engineering includes both hard and software engineering. So you're just in computer science now? It's understandable. A lot of people wish they had switched. Though our tracks are so similar one could pretty easily drop from engineering to computer science. It's too late for me though.
Whore-logic denial at its best, on the woman's part. The sneaking inhibition to get drunk and fuck something, along with the comfort of guaranteed sex, on the mans part. To put it bluntly. This was actually pretty entertaining though. Good for you.
@modelgonemad@xanga -Why not! I believe in honesty. When drunkenness is a possibility, bring a condom children! And don't forget to take your pill every day!
@mdongivin - Why isn't the "whore-logic" applicable to the man as well?
@modelgonemad@xanga - Because we generally don't have the need to justify our whoredom to ourselves, like women often do. Hence, the "whore-logic." I thought that was implied by the latter statement.
@mdongivin - It wasn't. The only real difference between the two is the denial or lack thereof.
@modelgonemad@xanga - Yeah... Which is why whore-logic applies to one and not the other.
-@betsy15@xanga - haha! A lot of relationships start that way.
@Thumper49047@xanga - I hear you! It's much easier to start relationships drunk......They do occassionally turn into something meaningful and sometimes surprisingly long-lived.
@mdongivin - I don't think you get what I'm trying to say so I'll just leave it at this: the desire to have sex shouldn't need excuses nor does it make anyone a whore.
@modelgonemad@xanga - If you thought a few names was me "attacking like an ape," then I feel bad when someone like me actually does somehow manage to get angered by you... IT'S ALL GRAVY, BRODAWG.
@shinoseishi@xanga - Very true, and I agree with that.