Friday, 29 October 2010
I’m a traditionalist, an old-school guy. I like to approach most situations in a more old-fashioned way than most people, which has its pros and cons. But there’s no denying that gender roles no longer conform to the old standards.
The generation of men working and earning money and women cooking and raising kids is gone. But is it gone completely?
The old Chinese proverb (which I actually think is a curse) “May you live in interesting times” proved true for our generation. Women go to work, have financial independence and climb the corporate ladder to executive positions, just like men. The phenomenon of “househusbands” has emerged and flipped the gender role on its head.
But some of the more traditional elements of relationships are still very much in play. Men are still expected to pick up the check on dates, hold doors for ladies, open jars, repair appliances around the house, etc. And women still must be maternal homemakers, even if it’s not to the same extent as the past.
I’m not saying that the tradition still holds in all cases, nor am I saying that it should. I think more equality in all aspects of a relationship is both healthy and necessary. “Woman, get in the kitchen and make me a sandwich!” doesn’t fly anymore, which is better for all involved.
But what should the balance be? How should gender roles be defined in a relationship, if they should be defined at all?
What do you think about gender roles in relationships?