Well it is no secret that I am a bit of an arrogant prick. I don't mind anymore, it makes life a little more interesting. The world becomes way more fun when you are better than everyone else. Initiating comment insults in 3... 2... 1...
But you would be lying if you said that you never judged anyone. I'm glad to have discovered that others do the same and sometimes you actually learn about the people you're judging based on your comments and reactions. Yesterday at work, a coworker of mine started commenting (quite hysterically, I may add) on a couple who were also coworkers of ours. The two looked quite happy but the situation looked hysterical. The boy was a larger boy and the girl was a fit and decently attractive girl.
Never the less though, when my coworker started to yell at the girl in a joking fashion, she got embarrassed and stopped holding her "boyfriend's" hand as they walked away. You're kidding me right? Well that just summed up her whole opinion of the relationship right there.
If a person has settled for another person then I don't even know what to say. Maybe "Fuck You" but we won't jump to conclusions just yet.
There is something to be said about a person who is embarrassed to be seen in public with their partner. Why are they even with them? What is your partner's purpose? To make you feel better about your shitty life and how you may only look decent with 5 pounds of eye shadow and cover up on... ok, maybe a "Fuck You" is allowed.
Now I know that that was directed at girls so I'll redirect just to avoid the shit-storm that could come out of it. Boys will do the same but probably if they are just using that particular girl at that particular time. They might not want to bee seen in public with them due to scrutiny from their friends or maybe being seen by another harlot they're taking advantage of.
In the end though, if you don't want to be seen in public with a person, you shouldn't be entitled or even privileged to their time in private at all.
People are disgusting. They use each other and hurt each other just for personal benefit and pick-me-ups. I guess that is the capitalist nature of us. I know I do it too... thus including me in the "disgusting" category. But I would never settle to be with a person who I did not completely adore. And if that person was embarrassed of me, I would tell them to go fuck themselves and just walk away. I guess in the end, that is the only solution to this problem.
If you're in this situation and you're just noticing it now... spare yourself the drama/heartache and leave. And if you're doing this to someone, "Fuck You" and you're filth. Yay!
What do you think of partners who settle or are embarrassed of their significant other?
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Sometimes I feel like my boyfriend is just settling for me.
yeah...it is weird when people are embarrassed by who they are dating. though it is different when the person they're dating is doing something embarrassing. =P
it's like, why are you dating if you dont want to be seen in public with them? kinda defeats one of the purposes of dating...doesnt it...? not proud of who you're with...?
Btw. I LOVE this line
"In the end though, if you don't want to be seen in public with a person,
you shouldn't be entitled or even privileged to their time in private
at all."
Makes me think of my ex fuck buddy. For a year and a half I let him hide me from his friends. Only his parents knew who I was. His friends knew there was a girl around but they didn't know who.
We got in a fight about it and haven't been talking.
I told him I wasn't happy feeling like he was ashamed of me. He tried telling me it's because he likes his privacy. But I think theres a difference between keeping me on the "down low" for 3 or 4 months and then outright hiding me for one and a half years.
Your partner should be there to build you up, not break you down. And that is exactly what being embarrassed of them will do. I've been in a situation where I liked a guy, but my friends all thought he wasn't worth my time, so I did what I could to keep him away from those people. Uncool on my part. It kinda just shows that I really didn't genuinely care about him, because if I had cared about him, I would have thrown caution to the wind and told my friends to shove it. Alas, I did no such thing, therefore proving to myself that we were not meant to be, thus resulting in my breakup with him. I think if you're going to be with someone, make sure its someone you adore and are genuinely proud to be with. :]
"I am a bit of an arrogant prick. I don't mind anymore, it makes life a little more interesting.The world becomes way more fun when you are better than everyone else. "
God I hate those kinds of statements. You're like that girl that calls herself a "bitch" and is proud of it. It's always the morons that are so proud of being a prick or a bitch.
"There is something to be said about a person who is embarrassed to be seen in public with their partner."
There is something more to be said about someone that makes fun of something like that. Your girl friend that did that is a low life. One time a group of girls were making fun of a fat guy that walked by for no reason and I could tell his feelings were really hurt. I went up to the girls and yelled at them and almost made them cry. What kind of ho bags just yell insults at fat people that walk by?
"People are disgusting. They use each other and hurt each other just for personal benefit and pick-me-ups."
That's true. A lot of people suck. But not everyone. The fact is...we really have no idea what that fat dude and his girls' relationship is like. Sure it sucks that she was embarrassed...but that doesn't have a 100% correlation with how she feels about him. She could potentially love him and be very insecure at the same time. But yeah, if I were the fat dude, I'd still be hella pissed.
"I guess that is the capitalist nature of us."
I think you might have to look up the word "capitalist" in the dictionary. Apparently you aren't "better than everyone else" in terms of vocabulary.
@wizexel22@xanga - Great response and I agree.
if you're embarrassed to be out in public with your partner then maybe you shouldn't be with them.
i would never be with someone who was embarrassed to be with me in public.
I would do the same..it's less of being embarrassed and being upset/mad; you shouldn't have to joke that way..yelling is not my way of joking seriously and not many people's either. That just bugged me.
I love how this article turned man couch into venting couch for people who eat there feelings and self esteem for a few comments there. HA! I also love the guy trying to belittle you for sacking up and admitting your an arrogant prick, in turn making himself sound like even more of an arrogant prick. Applause all around.
when i first started reading this post, i kind of had an idea of which mancouch writer this was, annnnddd i was RIGHT LOL. sorry. ROFL. o__- i kinda guessed correctly.
it must be the way you write or something.i think people naturally poke and prode at people they believe to be inferior physically or mentally when they the opportunity comes around. it's mean, but it's the truth.
i mean even some of the friends i know are so cruel with judging. it's sad because i have to admit i'm guilty of thinking up shallow thoughts at times too, but somehow it's already preprogrammed into my head.
it's hard to be proud of being someone and defending someone you really like, when it seems like all your friends are all negatively ganging up on them.
@mdongivin - I think you and I need to team up and write a joint super blog to see how many people we can piss off at once.
so true!!
@Morgan - That would probably be like an minor scale version of the A-Team, but instead of getting cats out of trees for old ladies we would just put them in the tree with it. The Ahole-Team. Ha.
@wizexel22@xanga - I love your response, you said everything I was thinking.
My boyfriend and I are polar opposites out in public when with friends. He's very extroverted and I prefer to keep to myself. Sometimes he does thing that get my upset, and vice versa. But we're certainly not settling for each other.
My university had presented a skit during our Peer Theater that sounds similar to this problem, about how some couples are scared of PDA (though it was more on par with same sex couples). I think there's an extent to that line. It takes some people courage and confidence to overcome that "embarrassment" sometimes. Just because you're embarrassed of your partner at the time shouldn't say that they will always be embarrassed. There is always room for growth and the development of confidence in some people. Although I guess every relationship is different.
@mdongivin - theres a difference between admitting you're a prick and being proud of it. this fool is straight out of the movie "Mean Girls". and theres a difference between being arrogant and being a douchebag that makes fun of fat people. and as far as trying to belittle the guy....i don't have to try...he belittles himself whenever he writes words. the guy makes fun of fat people...thinks doing pushups gives girls bigger boobs...and doesn't even know what the word "capitalist" means for F's sake!
@wizexel22@xanga - I usually take no ones side but my own however, if you want to get into a bit then the word capitalist just simply means the owner of capital. That being said, there ARE other types of capital then in the economic sense. For instance social capital, which I'm going to go ahead and assume is what he's talking about given the topic and content of the post. Secondly, you actually could use the most common meaning of capital (economic) which your referring to if we get down to brass tacks; because it simply means a factor of production not wanted for itself, but for it's ability to produce other goods. i.e. Dating someone not because you want to be with them but because they make you feel better about yourself, which I do believe it what he said. As for the being being proud to be a prick statement, momma says "what ever you do in life do it with pride or don't do it at all." The site is called "mancouch" not emotional therapy couch. Don't be so sensitive.
@Captainsaveamaleho - Oh please. We can get into the definition of capitalist all we want...but even with you stretching the definition as far as it possibly can ....how does it relate to his post? If you think that is what he meant when using the word "capitalist" you need to brush up on your reading comprehension skills.
haha then your momma isn't that bright. so should i make fun of fat people with pride? maybe spit on some homeless people with pride? maybe if i rape a girl and get convicted...i shouldn't be ashamed but hold my head up high cuz momma said so?
haha im not sure why the cop out reply is always "don't be sensitive". if a guy is being a moron and i call him out on it...thats being sensitive? did i get mad? no. but i cant call out someone for being a moron? seems like you're being the sensitive one not being able to take some criticism for yourself or for your blog buddy. how is this emotional therapy for me? your arguments are weak. considering your logic and reasoning sucks ....this isn't "moroncouch" either.
@mdongivin - this has to happen. The A-Hole Team. Let's figure out a topic and we'll do a part A and part B
@wizexel22@xanga - That is what I meant d000000d. Capitalism is based on survival of the fittest and selfishness and does not specifically have to apply to just economic topics. Read a book.
And maybe you should take some reading comprehension classes and realize that I was simply telling the boys and girls not to use each other. So unless you're using some girl and now feel bad about it, you really have nothing to get so bent out of shape about.
Go comment on somebody else's article, I'm over this.
@wizexel22@xanga - lulz. U so funnay. -ShimmerBodyCream
"No matter how much you think you love someone, you will always step back when the pool of their blood edges up to close." Aaaahhh, Chuck Palahniuk. Oh wait. This quote is almost entirely unrelated. Oopsie.
@wizexel22@xanga - what you said!