Thursday, 29 July 2010
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Why Do Women Travel in Packs?
It’s no secret that we men spend a significant portion of our time trying to understand women. Ladies, you’re a giant mystery to us, and we have no problem admitting it.
Now that I have graduated from college and have a girlfriend, my brain does not spin quite as much trying to figure out the female mystery. But one thing has always stuck in my mind.
What is it with girls ALWAYS travelling in bunches? Think about it, fellas. How often do you see a girl just…by herself? They always have at least one friend with them, as if they’re afraid that solitude will lead to an attack by every able-bodied male in a one-mile radius.
I remember the parties I would to go during my four years of college. I would try to talk to or dance with a girl, and would smack into the force field created by her three friends who seemed determined to not let me near her.
At one party, I was dancing with a girl, and her back was to me. Her friend, who was also dancing with some other guy and had her back to him, was facing her. I could hear the two of them talking about their respective dance partners, and it was then that I started to piece together how this whole female wolf pack thing works.
See, women travel in packs because they value the opinions of their friends so much that they don’t even want to talk to a guy, then walk over to their friend and find out what she thinks. It’s like one of those instant polls on CNN. They want their information as quickly as possible.
But understand something, ladies. This is very disheartening to us from a male point of view. Some of us have adopted the mentality that no woman wants another woman to hook up with a guy, because we constantly have to fight through your friends who are whispering their opinions about us into your ear. It’s a very troubling situation.
Men are a little bit different. Generally speaking, we want our buddies to go the distance. Hell, we even like seeing guys we don’t know get some action as long as it doesn’t affect us directly. This is where the wingman setup comes from: we just want to see our friends happy.
Which I’m sure is what you girls want for your friends, too. It just manifests itself in different ways for our two genders.
Now as for why girls always go to the bathroom together? Can someone please explain that?
Do women really have to travel in packs? Or is this just an overblown observation?
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I'm happy to say that besides going to the bathroom together, I do not do these things. In fact, I'm always telling my friend to "go for it." Notice I say friend though because I have only one female friend. So perhaps this is why I am different?
As for going to the bathroom together? In my case, my bff and I go together so we can go off and gossip. A lot of dirt can be learned in the bathroom.
Safety?
I never travel in packs. Ilike to be by myself HA
or maybe with a girlfriend or two in some circumstances.
the whole bathroom thing, is mentioned unbelievble many times, i must say. i talked with girlsfriends about this before and we all agreed that the bathroom is (many times) the only way to be alone and talk in private...
actually, the only time i would call a friend over and "ask for her opinion" is when i want to GET AWAY from the guy. some guys are ridiculously persistent and don't seem to understand me even when i tell him straight forward to leave me alone.
I don't travel in a pack... but maybe that's because I don't have a pack to travel with. I'm a loner, and it doesn't really bother me.
But in certain situations, I prefer to have at least one other person with me for safety reasons, like at a party or club or concert. I wouldn't go to these places alone.
girls travel in packs because they're convinced that if they're alone, any guy that sees her will automatically blitz rape her.
Safety and comfort.
While it may not be quite as extreme as @thewindycity@xanga puts it, a lone woman in certain social situations is generally subject to verbal or physical advances that are not always welcome, far more than a lone man in the same situation would face. Having a pack of girlfriends who can instantly form a protective circle around you to keep that creepy dude away comes in quite handy when he won't take the hint that you're not interested.
You're also operating under the assumption that women are in those locations because they want to hook up with guys, which is sometimes true--but also sometimes false. Hence the need for the protective girlfriend circle.
The bathroom thing, if it's a sketchy bathroom then the safety thing comes into play again. Otherwise, I think it's just an opportunity to gossip, coordinate your strategy with your girl friends, discreetly point out to your friend that she's got spinach in her teeth/her thong is showing/other emergency appearance-fixes, that sort of thing.
I agree with just_the_average_jane.
As far as the bathroom for me, its a safety thing. I was taught ever since I was a little girl not to go off, especially to the bathroom alone. I think as girls, we are taught that there is safety in numbers. There have been plenty of times, whether I was alone or not, that I have been hasseled on my way to the bathroom. One time I was walking, holding hands with my bf at the time, and a guy reached out and grabbed my ass. Needless to say I turned around and clobbered him, but some guys just dont learn.
Eh. I fly solo.
I don't usually have to worry about the creepy guys because when I'm not interested I permanently have my 'death stare' face on and I look like I'd slit someone's throat just for looking at me. So, I don't need a friend circle to make myself appear to be unfriendly territory. I can do it just fine by myself.
Whenever I am trolling though, i just soften the expression a bit and then the advances start because I no longer appear to be a ball busting bitch.
heeeeelllll no. i don't travel in packs, i like being alone
I never 'travel in packs,' and I only have two female friends that I'd consider close. Unless you count the gay guys I know.
I'll stick with my friend until she determines that she's comfortable with the guy, then I'll back off. It beats having to deal with "WHY did you LEAVE ME?!!?!" later.
Also, bathroom thing, if I go WITH a friend, it's to talk, or because she just saw her ex, or we're hiding from that guy that won't leave us alone.
If a girl is in a pack and she's allowing her friends to cock block, that means she doesn't want your attention. Take the hint.
It's just weird not to have at least one friend close by.
But y'know, if you want to ask a girl out, just ask to speak to her in private. I'm sure her friends wouldn't mind, as intimidating as they seem.
One phrase- Cock block.
That's about it really. Girls feel more secure when they're out in a group because if some dude comes up to them, her friends can do all the cock blocking and she doesn't have to lift a finger.
Though, sometimes I really don't understand it. I've seen friends (usually the uglier of the bunch) cock block me from flirting with their friend. I don't know if they think "Oh she must be drunk, we better get her away before she makes some bad decisions" but it's obnoxious. One of the events that happened to me was very telling.
I went up and talked to a girl at a dance party after I caught her eye fucking me so hard I could have claimed rape. As soon as she and I get dancing, three friends from out of nowhere swoop in and cock block like I've never seen. I saw several other guys try to hit on the same dude with the exact same results. You could say "Maybe you're just full of yourself and she WASN'T checking me out" but two weeks later I actually ran into her again and the level of flirtation was nuts.
I don't get why you ladies do this.
i travel in packs...and i go to the bathroom in packs too. i really don't know why. i just like being with my friends. it's a girl thing, i guess.
I don't have girl friends. I travel alone most of the time, or with boys. They are much more interesting, and far less dramatic. I don't like the opinions of many women that I meet. I don't like how they freak out over nothing... like how their boyfriend hasn't called/texted them back in 5 minutes, they call them a million times and start thinking the man is cheating. Maybe the dude was pooping, or showering, or at the gym... things that don't require constant phone contact with women.
I don't go to the bathroom with girls if I am out with them, because I have pee phobia in public. I also think its awkward when you're talking in the stalls.
I also don't agree with the "safety" excuse. Being in a group of girls is not going to stop someone from attacking you, because most likely the other women are as weak as you are. I am a tiny person, but walking the streets at night in Philadelphia isn't threatening. If you act like you're scared, you're prey. You need to know what you're doing and where you are at all times, and be confident in your knowledge, so you aren't the target.
I too am baffled by women's tendency to do things in large groups. I actually prefer solitude so I don't have to compromise to make the other person happy. That's why I usually travel, eat, watch movies, etc by myself. However, if I happen to be around an area that's deemed unsafe then I'd have a friend or two w/ me.
Its funny, when I go out I see girls in huge groups, yet most girls I know tend to not get along with other girls. Different types of people is all I guess. Cock blocking would make the most sense, if girls are in big groups their friends tend to be defensive, and girls just wanna have fun....oh and girls just wanna have fu uh un...or something heh.
Unlike the moron above me that said it was about cock blocking, it really has nothing to do with men. I am usually either alone or with my best friend Maria and you'll know who she is because we have the same tattoo. But if I'm going out to a club or something I'm usually in a pack of either gender and sometimes a mix, mostly because all of the better clubs are in shady neighborhoods and there's safety in numbers.
I don't travel in packs.
It's safer. Maybe it's because I grew up with a slightly over-protective mum, but I have heard enough rape warnings to last me a life time. Lone women are targeted, it's sadly fact. :/ Also, if I go to a club/bar/party, to make the fun.. well... more fun, I bring friends. Cause my friends are fun. And I don't go to clubs to pick up random guys.
Actually, I hate clubs, I really don't know why I'm answering this...
I prefer not to travel in a pack, too slow
I actually hate it when someone goes to the bathroom with me - I can do that alone, as it turns out.
But for me, having girls with me just guarantees that I don't have to sit awkwardly like a loner. I'm socially challenged, so to have friends with me just ensures that I'll have a better time. However, my girls aren't total cockblocks for the guys around, so it's a pretty good situation, all in all. :)