Among the many incongruities that are embedded in the gender roles between men and women are permanent tattoos
. I had some time to mull over how I felt about them when I recently accompanied a friend to an appointment she made with a tattoo artist. She's a girl, and she wanted a large cross on her back in monochrome. Not even a few days after the appointment and the subsequent healing process, she immediately said she was full of regret. And it got me thinking, are certain tattoos ever
a good idea?
First, I feel like I should say this as a guy: I find certain tattoos on women bold and sexy. There's a prevailing thought that women with tattoos are sluts, with comparisons to adult film stars abound. But as with everything else about people, it's really not that simplistic. I've always found that certain tattoos can show a real sincerity and confidence. When I look at a really nice tattoo, the hopeless-romantic-sissy in me brings me back to sentimental moments with friends and loved ones. I've never understood why it was considered "trashy" for women to simply express themselves in this way. I mean, if the Internet is proof, for every woman with a "trashy" tattoo, there's an oafish guy with an even trashier tattoo
But I do believe that there are limits. Notice how I've sprinkled the previous paragraph with the word "certain." What my friend did was absolutely moronic, and she admits that. The main problem I have with her situation is the lack of thought she put into it. Honestly, she mainly got the tattoo out of peer pressure. She's an artist herself so she designed the cross on large sketch paper a day before the appointment. I wasn't a fan of the design, but I didn't have time to give my input. In fact, nobody
she knew did because she wanted to keep it a secret until everything was finished. I asked her why she wanted a cross of all things and especially of that size and she simply responded with "it looked cool."
tattoos, I mean anything that was given at least a modicum of thought. Tattoos are a huge commitment, both financially and socially. Anything that's too big seems more like a cry for attention than an accessory. Do tattoos have to be personally meaningful? That again depends on the person, but I think it's safe to say that it's always a good idea to avoid cliches like Asian symbols and Disney characters.
So I want to foster a discussion for the few guys who are in the same boat that I am - guys who find tattoos on women attractive if done tastefully. I would ask the same question to women who find men with tattoos attractive, but our chauvinistic society lets us men get away with these things more easily.If you're a fan of tattoos on the opposite sex, what are some parameters you set on what constitutes a "tolerable" tattoo?
If you're not a fan and tattoos are a deal-breaker for you, what would be some minimum requirements for you to change your mind?