Saturday, 22 May 2010
Pr0nography has now come to be something 'every man watches'. In our society it has become the normality for men to watch pr0n. It's nothing out of the ordinary.
As a woman though, I find it troubling.
Despite how self confidant you are, you will always have some insecurity about your body. When the man you love is watching other women preform various sex acts and such, it's a blow to your confidence. Can't you please him?
As a woman, I feel the need to strive to make him happy enough sexually, and please him enough so that he doesn't feel the need for porn. I want to be all he wants; all he needs. I want to know that I can satisfy all of my mans sexual needs, and his fantasies. I don't want him to need the sexual release of pr0nography.
It's sad because some men start comparing there wives and significant others to pr0n stars. When this happens the woman feels inadequate, and she's no longer comfortable in front of her own husband or significant other; and how can you have a good, healthy sex life when your not comfortable with your lover?
In my opinion, pr0nography is ruining many women's self esteem and confidence not only in the bedroom, but with her own body.
Mancouch Says: Sorry sweetheart, but I call bullshit on this one.
How do you think guys feel when their girlfriends ogle some buff, handsome celebrity or an athlete? And even if you aren't guilty of it personally, as unlikely as that probably is, many other ladies are. You may not be watching him perform cunnilingus on someone, but I'm willing to bet you've thought about it. Taking pr0n away from guys would be exactly the same as taking this sort of ogling away from women.
Now, I do agree with you on one point. Men shouldn't compare their significant others to, or expect them to act like pr0n stars. It's totally unrealistic and pretty naive. If a guy is doing that, it's a sign that he's got some sex issues to work out, or that the relationship has some sex issues in general.
But a guy who watches pr0n on a moderately regular basis shouldn't cause you to second guess your sexual self worth, especially if your sex life is good. And why? Because pr0n is just fantasy, extremely graphic fantasy. Guys enjoy it for two reasons. We like hot women, and we like to watch people f*cking. Very simple.
Telling a guy not to watch pr0n is basically telling him that he shouldn't masturbate, and why the hell would you take that away from us? Whacking is a necessary function, and frankly, if we thought about our S.O's every time we did it, we'd be a bunch of mindless sex drones, stuck in missionary position, with no head for role playing.
A healthy sexual imagination is the key to having a good sex life. Watching pr0n gives us a whole lot of ideas about what we like, and what we don't. It also keeps us from getting completely sick of our girlfriends. So why don't you stop being selfish and try and enjoy a skin flick with your man instead of complaining about it?
Chances are it'll turn him on.
What do you think about guys watching pr0n?