Thursday, 15 April 2010
Every since I started dating, I've always been interested in older men. I'm not talking 2-3 years older, although that was the case with my first partner, I'm talking 9+ years older. When I was 18, I dated a guy who was 27. At 19, I dated men between 28-36. And now, at 20, I wouldn't mind dating a man who is between 40-42. I've been asked a lot 'What's wrong wtih boys your age?' My answer: They're boys, not men.
Reason #1: Men age gracefully.
Sounds like a stupid reason, because there are plenty of guys under the age of 30 who are attractive, but their babyfaced youth isn't what makes me tick. I don't want to feel like I'm dating my brother. Why watch the guy get better with age when you can just get a guy that has already aged and looks amazing? It's kind of like cheese: Aged Gouda is much more appetizing.
Reason #2: They're, hopefully, over their game playing phase.
Let's face it: Dating is a game. The decision you have to make is whether or not you want to play Battleship or Monopoly. Guys my age are a fan of the mind games. They like to keep their options open, while still keeping you close. They expect you to be there, while older men work to keep you. Battleship is a game of destroying, while Monopoly is a long game of strategy. I'd rather keep my emotions intact and strategize my next advancement then to have all my feelings blown into little pieces.
Reason #3: Romance.
This list isn't true for all guys my age, but for the majority it fits like a glove. Older men have a way of thoughtfully putting together a romantic evening based on what their woman is interested in. Whereas, guys my age get a skewed vision of romance based on movies like American Pie and Knocked Up. Excuse me for a moment, if I'd rather have an evening tailored to my personality and interests rather than one in a packed club where we can rub our bodies against each other because you hope I'll feel your package and get turned on.
Reason #4: Maturity.
Older men are 9 times out of 10, more mature. They've had their one night stands. They've played with a girls emotions already. They've broken hearts. When that phase passes, they're left with a nurturing maturity that is beyond sexy. They no longer think of girls as disposable; they cherish them.
Reason #5: More Experience in the bedroom.
By the time a guy hits 35, he's most likely had his fair share of sexual encounters. He's no longer interested in a wham bam thank you ma'am scenerio. He now wants to worship his partner and make her feel like the luckiest woman on earth. His needs are no longer the number one thing on his mind, and if he finds the right girl it won't matter because his needs will be on her mind. A sexual experience where both partners care about the other's needs is an excellent predicament to be in.
Reason #6: Stability.
If you're over the age of 30 and still living with your parents, this reason obviously doesn't apply to you. However, most men by that time are living on their own, have a steady job and are either close to or already have their ducks in a row. You don't have to worry about constantly paying for dinner because the guy who's your age lost his job and now mooches off you instead of finding another. Granted, older men like to be taken out just as much as you do, so paying is still a pleasant thing to do, but if you can't you don't have to worry; your older guy has got you taken care of.
Reason #7: Great conversation.
I'm not saying I can't have great conversation with guys my own age, but the converation is less mind stimulating and more mind boggling. They don't appreciate the more articulate conversations involing politics, religion and world topics. If they do, then it's more of an argument and less of a conversation. You can learn a great deal about yourself, life and the world around you by conversing with an older gentleman.
Reason #8: They're protective, in a non-caveman sort of way.
Most men, regardless of age, are going to be protective of what they think is 'theirs'. The difference between younger guys and older guys is that an older guy won't act barbaric when it comes to protecting his girl. The first thought that crosses a younger guy's mind when he gets into protective mode is to bash someone's face in or break their knee caps. An older guy is less worried about beating up another person and more concerned with getting you out of that situation, whatever it may be.
Reason #9: They're less drama.
An older man no longer cares that you have guy friends. He no longer cares if you go out by yourself. He trusts you and knows that you won't stray. If you do, then it wasn't meant to be and he won't end things on a bad note. The minute a younger guy see's a text from another guy his testosterone roars through his veins.
Reason #10: Confidence, not cockiness.
It's not hard to tell confidence from cockiness. Older men are confident in themeselves. They know they make you happy. They know they satisfy you. Younger guys only think they make you happy and satisfy you. If you happen to tell a younger guy that he isn't making you happy or he isn't satisfying you he gets defensive. His actions are no longer the problem; you are. You're just broken, and it spirals down from there.
This list isn't true for all younger or older men, but in my experience it holds up.