Would you date a foreigner?
", here's my version of a sequel to the initial post - "What were your experiences with dating a foreigner?".
Many of the friends around me, including myself, are with someone who is from a different culture and country. Whenever we all gathered, it felt like a United Nations meeting. All of our experiences are somewhat similar yet uniquely different. Why so? The obvious cultural differences aside, a large part of the differences in our experiences hinges on the level of communication and openness of the couples involved.
Some people have reservations about intercultural relationships and I can totally understand why. It takes a lot of curiosity about a culture and world dissimilar from one's own to enter such a relationship and from there, lots of efforts to keep it going strong. Sometimes, the differences can be frustrating and even unnerving but with a good level of communication, these differences can transform into a set of whole new perspectives that is actually enriching and fun! My man and I share four common languages (English, Japanese, French and Mandarin) and this commonality helped us to not only understand each other but to also be more culturally sensitive to each other.
Speaking fluently the same language, however, is not the only key to a great intercultural relationship. There are couples who can only converse with each other in broken English and yet they are some of the happiest couples around. I think it would be very difficult for me to be with someone who has zero interest or regard for my culture and thinks that only his is the best. One of the reasons why I am still crazy about my man after so many years is because our different upbringing brings forth every other day not only a new experience/outlook and a new challenge to my definition of "common sense" but also a renewed appreciation of my own culture. All of these could have easily been translated into a series of obstacles for a couple but I saw them as treasures to widen my horizons as a person.
What about you? What were your experiences with dating a foreigner?
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