So me and the female are talking whimsically about marriage as we come to terms with the fact that we ain't getting any younger. Sometimes we get to interesting arguments over how we would have the wedding--not arguments so much as questions regarding what kind of cake we want which brake into tangents about how marble cake is better than plain white cake, etc.
However, I've been wondering about certain friends belonging to the female, attending this wedding that will probably happen someday. Due to drama four-six years ago I got ostracized by a huge group of our high school friends. In fact it's been rather difficult just reconnecting with a few of them. I know the female would want to invite them though, even though I'm sure a lot of them still disapprove of me...
So what do you do in that sitch yo? Do we just invite everybody we know and hope the people we don't want to show don't? That way, no one gets hurt feelings. I'm not terribly worried about some doochie poo getting up during the ceremony and objecting to our union, but I wouldn't put it past a few people getting drunk and wanting to fight me during the reception.
Funny how wedding crashers in my case would be a bunch of guys chasing after my bride to be and not the bridesmaids. What would you do if this was a issue in your wedding? Or, what do you see as the biggest problem in your wedding?
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invite them, just to be polite, and then hire a very large bouncer. if you see things heading down a bad path, kick their asses out. after all, it's your wedding, and if you really don't want them there, that's up to you.
So what exactly did you do to be ostracized? Also, why is your female counterpart so keen on being such good friends with folks who would wish ill upon you and your relationship with her?
@yakko1@xanga - I was a jerk to a few of her guy friends that had a thing for her back in my crazy Jealous days. She's one of those super nice girls that get's along with everybody and friends some of the weirdest and messed up people, despite me telling her to exercise better judgment =/
Wedding crashers indeed! I was worried that my own grandparents were going to crash the wedding. And by crash, I mean just get upset and do something regrettable. I wanted them to be there, of course.
Although it isn't exactly the norm, we solved the problem of people getting drunk at the reception by simply not serving alcohol. Considering the fairly conservative crowd we are related to, I doubt many people were disappointed because it was a nice reception otherwise. We were the most worried about how my grandparents were going to behave. You see, we chose an old, well-known minister to be the officiant and then we learned when we announced our choice to my parents that my grandparents had had some issue with him decades ago, before I was born. Apparently he was on the wrong side of some disagreement with them and never talked to them directly and their feelings were very hurt. We had already asked him to be our officiant, though, and he was so happy to be a part of it. It would have been disappointing for us to change plans because he really is nice and we really like the guy and knew nobody else for the job.
Luckily, my dad solved this by giving the old minister a call and letting him know about the situation. The minister had forgotten the whole thing, was shocked and very sorry and gave them the decades-late apology that they had been waiting for. (It might be kind of their problem for holding onto it for so long, but him apologizing saved the wedding.) Senior drama for the win. By the time the wedding rolled around, everyone was respectful and even friendly again. I even saw him and my grandpa having a cheerful, thoughtful-looking conversation at the reception. Amazing!
its YOUR day too and you should not have to feel weird, awkward or uncomfortable at your own wedding so you shouldn't be inviting people you don't like to your wedding.
It's YOUR party and you CAN cry if you want to. Or more simply, not invite the assholes who could possibly ruin your day.
@wordkisses@xanga - Nice. My friends grandparents had the local police chaperon their wedding due to a family feud. Twas a simpler time back then lol.
@JinXd_Icicle@xanga - I suppose you're right, but I still feel a wedding is really about spoiling the bride. -_^
...., the style make me feel silk,......
If someone crashes my wedding...it'll be a problem.
Its all about tactfulness and diplomacy and specifically how you word your invitations for example " We cordially invite you and one guest" and work from there as people control Some people even break it down by having assigned seating in both the wedding and reception hall. Its all about pre-planning and realism.