From a certain point of view, the entire human species is caught in one giant web of smut. One person kisses another, who then sleeps with someone else, who then goes horizontal with another person. The more promiscuous you are, the more lines that jut out from your spot on the web. The only problem is, the accuracy of said web is always in question, because not everyone shares the same definition of the term "hook-up".
Now, we obviously can't make that decision for the entire world, as much as we might like to, but I think we can at least come to a fair decision for Mancouch, and perhaps the whole Xanga community.
The true problem with the term is how vague it is. Humans, being the inquisitive creatures that we are, simply aren't satisfied by vague terms, especially when it comes to sex. We want details in every wet, butt-smacking way possible.
Many people take it to mean making-out, nothing more, nothing less. I'd be comfortable keeping the definition here, for two reasons. One, it clears up the meaning completely, as it would cease to mean more than thing. Two, since the term 'hook-up' sounds fairly casual, it would be consistent with the action of making out, which is low-risk and low-consequence.
We all know things get a lot more messy when sex is involved, both literally and figuratively. But when people use 'hook-up' as a way to describe it, it trivializes sex to a point where it seems just as inconsequential as making out. That's a bad thing, even if you're someone who treats sex like shaking hands.
On the other hand, though, saying 'I hooked-up with so-and-so' is a way of being discrete about your sexual misadventures, which I suppose is useful in its own right.
The question is, do we want a catch-all term for all manner of sexual and sexually related activity? It hides the total truth of what happened, but also makes light of things that shouldn't be taken quite so lightly. Do we even want this term to remain a part of our sexual vocabulary?
The simplest option is to not use the term to describe anything at all, but considering how long it has been around, I think we ought to accept that people are going to use it.
How would you define hooking up?
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to me hooking up means when two people just have casuak sex without strings being attached.
Bang bang.
seriously everyone has their own idea of what "hooking up" means
one of my buds was like dude i hooked up with her, i was like oh so did you go all the way?
and he looked at me confused and replied, yea man thats what I just said I hooked up with her...
then when another buddy of mine said he hooked up with someone, I was like no way...I cannot believe you banged her! which he got all defensive and said whoa man hold up i didnt say i had sex i just hooked up with her.
-.- wtf I hate that term
in my books, hooking up = makin out nothing else. having sex would be one night stand
Mer, sticky sticky stuff. I'm not entirely sure.
I think it's a catch-all for anything from making out to having sex, but usually in the context of casual relationships, and never for people who are officially dating.
In general a term referring to casual sexual relationships.
I define hooking up as having sex. My friend defines it as making out.
I remember reading in an article that it's vague because it makes it seem like a guy had sex with a girl and like a girl just made out with a guy. The reputation of both isn't tarnished. Whenever someone says "hook up" I have to clarify and not just assume things.HOOK UP=WHERE U GET YER WEED
~I ALWAYS THOUGHT FUCKING=CASUAL SEX
i like the term because it sounds better then saying outright, we fucked, because it could mean we just made out. it covers all matter of sins. hahaha and people can assume what they like.
anything more than making out.
i agree, i hate the vagueness of the term -.-;;
"We should hook up" = Let's hang out. Or atleast that's what I have been using it as.. I hope I didn't give the wrong impression to anybody..
yeah I have no idea. there are so many definitions of that term that I have given up entirely on trying to understand the true one.
I don't really consider it to be anything specific. Whenever I hear that someone "hooked up" with someone, I ask what their definition of "hooking up" is. I guess what I think of first is making out.
@xraindropsonroses@xanga - LOOOOL. This made my day.
@lusciousddja@xanga - lmao!
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HOOK UP = RECEIVED UNEXPECTED PERKS OR DISCOUNTS! lol
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Usually I've heard it used to refer to people making out. I usually hear "I fucked/banged/did/slept with him/her" when talking about sex.
The ambiguity of the term is it's appeal, at least for me.
I don't like explaining, so it's sufficient for everything.
It's like a "think what you'd like" kind of thing.
yeah it confuses me when people use the word "hook up"
'cause you dont really know what exctly happened.
and it can mean just about anything
so thats why i prefer details, lol
ugh. where did the word bang come from?
Hooking up is when I let other adults touch me in my bathing suit area.
hooking up with my friends mean we did something with a guy that we wouldnt do with a friend that nite. then we will go into specifics
Besides hooking up = having sex means nothing to us, because there's already a word for that ONE NIGHT STAND. and we dont use that either we just say fuck. Lol, but i see why theres confusion for different parts.
@wyrdkismet@xanga - You must be a virgin or not had you some awesome sex because if you did, the origin of the term would be obvious to you. Banging...ahh, the sweet mindless ecstasy!