Tuesday, 09 March 2010

• What Is It Guys REALLY Want?

  

  Approximately 65 years ago, there was an list of expected traits that men looked for in women when it came to "wife" material; Cooking, cleaning, mending, child-bearing, ect. Obviously, things have changed in what is to be expected from a woman. But really, when you think about it - those small set of guidelines made it particularly easier for women to catch a man because everyone wanted the same thing. 
  
  Now, because of women's liberation, we have the freedom to do and be whatever we want.

  There are so many posts where women talk about their likes and dislikes when it comes to what they want in a male-partner. What we expect from their personalities, body-shapes, income, profession. We build up quite a specific checklist in what we expect from a partner and the more checks made, the more "perfect" the man.

  I'm more realistic as a woman. There are so many different types of people, let alone men, so I won't say "I want someone 5'10, whose a lawyer and likes tennis." Pretty much, I'm looking for someone who fits me. I have a few particular things that I've learned I like in a man, but nothing is really a deal breaker with me except criminals, man-sluts, or manipulative, bad attitudes. But ultimately, I don't have a checklist.

  But I have lots of friends who have very particular, maybe even picky, details.
  
  And it got me to thinking, do men also have particular checklists in what they are looking for in women?
  
  Just as in high school, no girls ever dated the "geeks," which girls were getting avoided by the boys? And why?

  Not too long ago, a guy friend of mine said he was ready to settle down but didn't want your typical bar-rat girl. He was looking for "wifey" material. I'm not entirely sure what that meant because that could be interpreted in many different ways.

  Nowadays, what is it that men are looking for? Now, let me make the disclaimer: I'm speaking in regards to women they would want full long-term relationships with. Not one night stands.
  
  What are men looking for when they are looking for "wifey"?
  
  What do men want in girlfriend material?
  
  My second disclaimer: This post is out of pure curiosity if men think and feel the same way women do, and is not a means of trying FIT any particular checklist.

  But, do men who want girls who can play video games and whose favorite movie stars Seth Rogen? Or do they want chicks who don't wear makeup or go all out, fully dolling up? OR do they want girls who strive to be Megan Fox with hair thats always looks like it just came from the salon and dedicates 2 hours a day to running? Do men want a woman who drinks bay-breezes, whiskey or beer?
  
  What do MEN want?

  What do you want when it comes to a woman in regards to...
  Her personality?
  Her education and career?
  Her abilities?
  Her tastes and hobbies?
  Her appearance? (Both how she looks in the buff and how she chooses to look, meaning fashion, hair, makeup)
  Her activities?
  
  What do men want, and expect, a girlfriend to be?

  Mancouch Says: You already stated what men are looking for in the body of this post. You stated it when you said what you were looking for in a man, because regardless of race, religion, gender, sexual orientation, etc. there's really only one thing anyone is looking for: some one who fits them. That's different things to different people. So there is no one all encompassing answer. Even 65 years ago, where your post starts, this was still true. While there was a stronger stereotype of what was expected of women that doesn't mean that is what everyone wanted. Even back then what each man wanted was some one who fit them. Sometimes that meant the subservient stepford wife you claim everyone wanted, but more often than not this was not the reality. For each man the answer of who fits them is something different, but if you want a basic guideline I'll give you a starting point. Most men want some one who will call them on their bullshit when they need to be and lift them up and support them when they need to be. And always remember what those great philosophers the bloodhound gang once said, "All I really want in a girl is me."

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