At work today, I was taunted by a little kid. He laughed and pointed at me, taunting about my height. I didn't say anything, pretending that he wasn't talking to me, but what astonished me was that the mother didn't say anything or try to stop the boy from taunting as they left the store. I shook my head in disgust that the mother didn't discipline her son or even stop him from his inappropriate outburst. I don't think she was too busy with anything else, since she was dragging both her sons from the store while carrying groceries.
Kids can be so cruel sometimes, that's why parents should discipline them if they're acting as such. But few parent's do this, and this cause the child to thing that being cruel is a good thing.
How they discipline them is up to them, as long as it's not cruel and unusual, or abusive. I'd go as far as a spanking with a belt, which what I hope that mother did to that boy.
Most parents nowadays only give the child a time out, which may work on some, but mostly that's just like saying, "You can't do anything for a while". Continuous time outs may work, but once push comes to shove (and don't shove your children, please) you have to use other methods of disciplining your children.
Taking things away from them show that you're the boss. I once had my stuff taken away and wasn't allowed to have it for nearly a year. I didn't want that to happen again, so I started acting right during that time. Of course, you have to know what your kids like, but I think it's best that you take away their freedom as it is.
One last way is physical discipline. Spanking is tough, I know. I had a dog that I would spank it every time it was doing something wrong, and I felt horrible about it. Sometimes, this may be the only way to show the child that a certain action is wrong and he/she shouldn't do it at all. The problem about this is that it's violence, and the child may think it is, so they may feel the need to fight back. Which brings me to the best way to discipline your child:
Show the consequences. Always show the consequences to your child of their negative actions. Don't sugar coat it, no matter how horrible it is.
You can also do a role reversal. Stuff like, "What if I did that to you?" or "What if someone did this to you?" Make sure they answer honestly.
One important thing that I think all or at least most parents fail to do after the punishment, and mine failed to do so to me as well, is to talk with the child. Now, you have to give them time before you talk to them. Perhaps, after the timeout, or when the child is finished crying or whatever, but after that, you have to tell them why you had to punish them. Ask them why they did what they did and tell them what they could have done better and why. Tell them why it was wrong and what they should do next time. After that, please, please, please, please, for the love of God, tell them you love them!!!
To me, discipline is a cycle. The child does wrong, they get punished, you /the child take responsibility, you teach the child, the child learns, then everything is back to normal until the child does wrong again.
Needless to say, my feelings were hurt that day, in fact, that pretty much ruined my day. I hope this doesn't happen to anyone else.
How do you/would you discipline your child?
Comments (99)
HEY DOUCHEBAG DON'T FUCKING HIT A DOG. NOT COOL FUCKTARDO.
and yeah. discipline your damn kids or leash them.
I think parents should have to take an IQ test before having kids... So sick of seeing half-assed parents with their feral kids.
Agreed. People tell us all the time how well behaved our boys are. I don't see it as anything exceptional, they are just typical little kids with some basic manners. We treat them with respect and expect them to respect us, our things and others. That's what it really boils down to. You teach them respect that way, everything else will follow naturally.
Part of me is sad that compared to a lot of kids these days, my boys are extraordinarily behaved. It shouldn't be that way. (Although I don't mind hearing how awesome my boys are occasionally.
how would i discipline my child!?
the same way everyone in my family did
grab anything that afflicts pain and use it to your advantage.
I wish I could recommend this shit twice.
@ShimmerBodyCream@xanga - SECONDED. Not only is it cruel, hitting your dog will likely turn it into a) an aggressive dog, or b) a fear-aggressive dog.
Yes, kids need to be disciplined. But those who do it don't need this lesson and those who do won't listen.
YES!! People really need to discipline their kids better! And in the worst case scenario, when a child is being truly unruly, there are times when a time-out just isn't going to do it!
When I was growing up my parents where very good at disciplining me, they would only hit if I was truly out of hand, but constantly would make me take a time out or take away things I liked or privileges.
I remember for my 7th birthday I was going to have a party, but because I was being a bad child my parents canceled it. It really showed me who was boss!
Children today are so out of hand... There should really be something done about it.
@ShimmerBodyCream@xanga - @whitetrashpoet@xanga - I couldn't control my anger when I disciplined my dog, all the reasons why I blame myself for losing it and not wanting another pet for the rest of my life.
@iamjacksrottingliver@xanga - I know, right? I fear the children of those parents of taking after them.
@TheFloater@xanga - That was pretty much how I was raised, if was able to be held in one hand, I was hit with it.
@whitetrashpoet@xanga - I think they'll listen once they have their children taken away and not allowed to have children again if they were really terrible.
@Illegally_Invited@xanga - Oh, I thought you were condoning it - glad you're not.
Consistency is key, whatever form of discipline one may choose to use. I was spanked constantly, something I don't plan on repeating with my own children.. But it made me VERY well behaved, so I guess it worked? I don't agree with spanking as a general rule. It does not show a mutual respect that I would like to be there.
Yeaa kids are getting out of hand. I spanking can do WONDERS lol. Alot of parents want to be the friends with their kids. You are not their friend, you are the parents ACT LIKE ONE!
Is this Mancouch or Momaroo??
Where am I?
@Shy___Away@xanga - I've been spanked so many times, it somewhat helped me. Though sometimes, it made me angry, and wanted to retaliate, but I never did because I was such a coward. I still am when my father keeps threatening to kick me out of the house.
@MystDaPimP@xanga - I think parents do that because they want the child to respect them. Children should respect their parents, no matter what...unless they've been mistreating them or abusive. So, vice-versa, the parents have to respect the child as a good child.
@Reckless - Honestly, it wouldn't even matter anymore, most of these blogging site don't follow their category anymore, and they'll post anything that will interest them or what they think will interest their audience.
@Illegally_Invited@xanga - Haha, too bad Mancouch is full of bachelors with no kids attached like me. Check us out.
@Reckless - I don't have kids either, and honestly I don't think I'll be ready until another 10 years.
@Illegally_Invited@xanga - So this blog doesn't apply to us bachelor Mancouchers. Me and my Mancoucher buddies are here to check out the ladies. Nah... we're here to blog.
@Reckless - Mostly mothers. You'd be surprised how many women are subscribed to Mancouch.
Also, this post is also like a heads up to upcoming parents.
@Illegally_Invited@xanga - It's a good blog though. A guide for the future dads (or those unplanned dads who forgot to use condoms). =)
There is nothing wrong with spanking. Spankings made me the wonderful girl I am today
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The severity of the punishment depends solely on what they did to deserve to be punished. I am not above whooping a kids ass when need be. A couple of swats on the ass with a wodden spoon or yard stick will straighten a kid up real quick.Â
Also, to all of you fucktards that count and yell at your kid to not do something when you know they will,GET OFF OF YOUR ASS AND BE A REAL PARENT!!
Oh, but you can't spank a child! It would hurt their feelings!
Just kidding. Kids need to be spanked. For the most part, give me two kids and I'll be able to tell which has been spanked and which hasn't. Anyone could.I used to spank.
Now, with baby cousins that look up to me, I yell and deny them access to my papers and crayons, and play with the good kids. They end up crying, and I explain to them why they have to share, not hit, or make fun of each other. Once they do what they're told, I let them back in the circle.
...I really want to be an elementary school teacher!! But with the job outlook, i suppose I shouldn't go for it. Anyway... Don't spank kids. There are better options, though it works. Don't land yourself in jail now!
A lot of it depends on the kid...the two older boys hate time-outs. The 7 year old has begged me to spank him and let him go back to his TV/game/whatever rather than to have sit for 10 minutes! So you have to find what works for you...
@TornadoChaser@momaroo - 'Be lazy all you want but when it comes to the future of someone else, if you don't think you can hack it, DON'T HAVE KIDS!' - I am SO cross-stitching that onto a sampler, I swear. LOL
to be honest id do the same thing my parents did to me. sen them to their room for 20-30 minutes. when i was a kid getting sent to my room was horrible. for the first 5 minutes alone id be screaming and kicking the door. and if it got bad enough id get a spanking then be put in my room for about the same time. youd be surprised on how well it worked for me.