Tuesday, 01 December 2009
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An Ode to Maleness
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Xanga for me is entertainment. But I’ve found that the majority of articles appear to be written by women, for women, or by men trying to appeal to women. The comments are stacked on the side of the so-called fairer sex even so far as having more women commenting on Mancouch than men.Maleness has slipped into being simplified to ogling pretty girls and powerful cars. Men are encouraged to get in touch with their feminine side with the underlying unsaid acumen being that they are to abandon their masculine side. We’re bombarded with feminist points of view that hold strong females up as heroines and keep strong males down as cavemen. I’m tired of it.
Being male is a lot more than just grunting, eating meat, and watching sports. Your role as a man is to be more than this. You’re a caretaker, a provider, a security guard, a bug squasher, and much more. You can be relied on when emergencies call for you. It’s “women and children first” for a reason. Being male is an honor and you should have respect for yourself and your fathers before you.
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I’m balking at this burgeoning acceptance of the weak man; the acceptance of the fearful man. It makes me sick. You’re allowed to be weak but don’t let it be your identity. You’re allowed to be fearful, but don’t let it cripple you. Men need to rise up, take action, straighten their backs and remember what it means to stand for something.
What does being male mean to you? Who are your male role models?
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- From: Titanic_Spaz@xanga
- About Me: I’m married, I’m Canadian, and I love satire, sarcasm and wit. If you’re here and you’re asking yourself “Who is this idiotic asshole!”, you likely just read one of my satirical blogs, took it way too literally, and now you should feel a little silly for doing so. I’m not a homophobe, nor am I a misogynistic, moron of a man. I’m intelligent, accepting of others, and thoroughly enjoy mocking those that aren’t.
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To me...when I think of the ultimate male, I think of my husband. He is a provider, my protector, a great father and I love him for it. I've told my friends that to me, he is the definition of manly and a lot of them agree with me. My husband has told me his only fear is losing me or Andrew (our son) and instead of living in that fear, he puts it to use and it's a motivator for him. The safest place in the world is next to my husband....and I'm so glad I'm married to a man I can feel that way about.
I like how you put it: "You’re allowed to be weak but don’t let it be your identity. You’re allowed to be fearful, but don’t let it cripple you." A lot of people think being "manly" or masculine is being void of emotions and being an idiot...not true.
As far as male role models --- I know my husband is impressed with Chuck Norris, Harrison Ford and the guy who is Survivorman on Discovery.
WHOA WHOA WHOA WHOA WHOA. HOLD IT.
"We’re bombarded with feminist points of view that hold strong females up as heroines and keep strong males down as cavemen."
PLEASE realize that is NOT FEMINISM. that is called sexism. people believe they are feminists but are in fact sexist. feminism is about equality of the sexes - those who continually insult and belittle men are not fighting for the equality feminists strive for. so please, please do not think that feminists are crazy, hairy man-haters. that is one of the most disheartening stereotypes about feminists. as a feminist, i firmly believe women ARE strong heroines - but are men cavemen? no. we all have equal rights, equal abilities, and that's it.
"bug squasher" SO TRUE haha! I'm always so excited for my bf to come visit me so he can kill all the spiders in my room ;x
MANCOUCHstuff for guys
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Good post. I think many women like when men are the 'warrior-type' so to speak. :P
I know that I appreciate the masculine qualities in men.
:D
Uhm, when I see a strong man, I see a strong man and when I see a strong woman, I see a strong woman. If I ever see a strong man being depicted as a caveman, more often than not the strong woman is being depicted as a butch body builder. Not everything is so one-sided. Also, as a feminist, I want equalization between the sexes.. I in no way condone deprecation of men. I have a deep adoration and respect for men.
you get sick easily. for a man.
Men should have a backbone. Then again, so should women.
honestly, it's nice to read a post NOT about Ms Fox too :D
admirably written. even if women and men are equal socially/politically/whatever, i still think there will be an inevitable difference between men and women in socio-anthropological terms as mentioned in this entry. i don't think women ought to be considered "inferior", but i also don't think they're fooling anybody by trying to transcend everything ever. you're right, the new generation has deemed men to be heartless/mindless and women to be powerful. awareness and recognition of potential and faults, wonderful. implicitly creating new niches for genders, not.
THIS IS MANCOUCH!!!!!!
Being a male means leading and being a solid rock to found my family upon. It means providing and doing the work. Food maker, decision maker, woman lover/protector, bug squisher, moneymaker... etc...
I look up to the other men in my family who came before me, as well as the men in my community. Grandfathers, dads, uncles, pastors, teachers, friends.
Being a man means three things.
Beer.
Boobs.
And whatever the Hell it is else we want. And you bring us what we want when we want it.
I HATE STEREOTYPICAL NORMS WHERE MEN AND WOMEN ARE EXPECTED TO ACT A CERTAIN WAY JUST BECAUSE THEYRE A CERTAIN GENDER....
FUCK THAT CRAZINESS!
JUST BE.....
NAMASTE
@invisible__monsterx@xanga - i have to applaud your reply. i agree.
and there are all kinds of feminists. most of us just want to be treated fairly, not take over and make mincemeat of men.
anyway, we shouldn't forget that most victims of violence are still women. we only get paid 70 cents to a man's dollar. we're not even considered as equals in the arts. men are still considered the "superior" painters and writers. most famous chefs are men. fashion designers--yeah, men.
i don't hate men. some of my favorite people are men. i love my father and brother and husband and uncles.
if men are truly secure in their masculinity, they wouldn't mind strong women. my husband considers himself a feminist and he ain't no pussy. i dare anyone call him that to his face. he supports the cause because he knows women still have a lot to overcome. and he has a daughter. he wants her to grow up in an environment where she can be treated fairly.
real men don't get intimidated by strong women. they gladly walk side by side with them. our president does.
and men are simplified to ogling muscle cars and pretty women? you mean, women are doing this? hmm...yet we have only elected male presidents. most senators and congressmen are still men. the supposed great thinkers are still men. and men are offended by this? if i were a man, i'd be asking myself why women are making these generalizations.
i think what's going on is this: imagine the roles are reversed. imagine women as the more powerful between the sexes. imagine many of the women around you are superficial jerks who only care about fashion and huge cocks. imagine how confused you are. you ask yourself , these people are supposed to be superior to me? they run the country. they dictate trends. they're celebrated as the best in everything. yet look at them. i think the articles you mention--and i don;t know really know what you're referring to--may have been written by women who are around such men. that is their millieu. that was certainly mine while i was growing up. it could've been written by a frustrated wife who gets beaten. maybe by a woman who resents a male collegue's undeserved promotion. maybe her foot got ran over by some guy in a muscle car ogling at a woman crossing the street. do men bother to ask why women might feel disenfranchised? do they even care?
i'm not here to argue. i just want men to ask themselves questions. we women do it a lot, ask ourselves questions. about men.
holy fuck. i didn't mean my reply to be this long.
ha ha too weak notice. love that
@hilaw@xanga - lol yes..that was a long reply but at least it was well articulated.
For brevity's sake I'll respond in point form
1) Personally, I'm not intimidated by strong women, I find it very attractive. However I don't agree with the seemingly common generalizations that masculinity is synonymous with being brutish, bullheaded, blunt, and uncaring.
2) re: Ogling pretty women and muscle cars. I was mostly referring to the articles posted in Mancouch.
3) re: Women being more powerful of the sexes. On Xanga, they definitely are. Check the most popular articles that are found on the Xanga front page and you'll usually find more women responding then men. Readership drives content.
Not arguing your points, just clarifying mine.
@Titanic_Spaz@xanga - oh right right--re articles on mancouch. i can dig it. titties and beer kinda articles. i have a theory as to why women on xanga, in particular, get the most attention. xanga is a social site, for the most part. women write about social issues more. which is a shame. we need a the theologian's cafe counterpart. that would be something.
@Titanic_Spaz@xanga - Youre against generalizations of men yet you just generalized feminists. GOOD JOB
@ShimmerBodyCream@xanga - Agreed! For Christ's sake, can we all just stop generalizing each other!
@phan__tom@xanga - No. That would require logic and intelligence which most people lack.
@ShimmerBodyCream@xanga - In my original post on my own blog I had written "...feministic points of view" ...to attempt to get across the concept of the people that call themselves feminists....when they're not....but the Mancouch editor changed it to "...feminist points of view."
I guess it's my own damn fault for not being able to write well enough to get my point across.
lol
@Titanic_Spaz@xanga - Mancouch fail. Not your problem. They've been recycling lovelyish posts lately. I think Jessica from Lovelyish finally got that sex change and now she is running things over here.
@invisible__monsterx@xanga - Wait, so if you want equal rights for women, then you're a feminist? But, since I don't consider myself a feminist, I must hate women and view them to be inferior right?
Something there doesn't sound right, does it? I'm pretty sure viewing women to be equal with men is just having a fucking brain between your ears.