What do you think about an older woman dating a younger guy?
I know it's not as big of a deal as it use to be, but it's still not as common as an older guy dating a younger girl.
My friend is currently dating a guy who's at least 8 years younger than her. She told me about the pros and cons of dating a younger guy.
Cons: She does feel self conscious about being older, especially when she spends time with him and his friends. They're in their 20's, like to drink, smoke up and party 'til dawn. He teases her about her age sometimes. She has a hard time keeping up with his schedule (after all her body and energy level is not what it used to be). She doesn't mind so much that he's always broke because he just started working and she picks up the bill most of the time, but she does mind that he lives at home so they don't have much privacy. She lives with a sibling so he thinks it's weird to go to her place. So they end up spending a lot of alone time in movie theaters, going to city parks, and driving around.
Pros: His stamina. My friend has dated older guys before and guys her own age. According to her, they just don't recharge as quickly and are not as sexually active. Even though she's not as flexible as she use to be and had a serious case of neck cramps and leg cramps after the last bout of car sex, she still looks pretty darn happy.
She told me recently she's had the nagging feeling of "will it last?" "Does he think it's a fling?" "Is there too much of an age gap for a real relationship to develop?"
Can an older woman-younger man relationship work?
Comments (56)
No cuz if ur an old lady ur vagina gets dry and u cant stick a weenkie in.
Although the most well-known one currently involves a sixteen-year gap (Ashton & Demi)...I know a five-year gap works. (My wife and I.)
My dad said, a month before the wedding..."well, you'll probably die about the same time" (given differences in guys & gals life expectancy)
like everything else, it depends on the people in the relationship. some guys look and act older for their age and some women the other way around. yeah, i'm the queen of non-sequitors. anyway, and as long as both people are comfy and happy that's all there should be to it (sort of). i have seen this documentary on bbc where the women were older. there was a couple where the woman is old enough to be his granny. it looked so wrong, i have to admit. she was also extremely manipulative. after all she is much older and experienced. and i have to admit it looked grotesque to me, this gray-haired woman who wears falsoe teeth and this guy in his late 20's (she's 70?). ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww but they looked happy. ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww
I <3 my bf... who is 4 years younger. he is perfect for me.
i think it could work out as long as the two persons involved are willing to make things work. compromise is the key.
my bf is 4 months younger than me.... but i still love him so i am kinda the older woman in the relationship
@ShimmerBodyCream@xanga - Once again, your classless vulgarity shows.
Anyway, I think it can work. Love knows no age or gender boundaries.
@mathematicalbagpiper@xanga - You always like to chat with me. I appreciate that.
I'm sure like any other relationship it could work or it couldn't. meh not a big deal. but I think huuuuuuuuuge age differences are weird.
As a fling, it's a perfect set-up.
As far as relationships go, there are cases of a young dude living happily ever after with an older lady. The harsh reality of the male species is that we tend to focus on a particular area of a relationship. Once that's dried up or even boring, the chances of us moving on to something younger and fresher increases astronomically. I'm just going by the norm. Honestly, it all depends on how huge the age gap is. 4 or 5 years ain't nothing to me.
The pros of having an older woman is quite enticing. The chances of her playing stupid psychological games is decreased. Not to say that younger women play games-----Oh, who am I kidding? Most of them do! I think an older woman tends to think more like a guy anyway, so that could rule in the guy's favor if he plays his cards right. They know the score.
Shit, now you folks got me thinking about MILF.
This was posted on datingish too haha. In any case my gf is 5 years older than me and things are up and down between us but most of the times things are pretty steady.We do come along problems involving family and all over the issue but its never really let it get to us (more to her than me). In any case the best thing to do for yourself is follow your heart and do what makes you happy.
It's working just perfect with me and my gf, and shes 8 years older than me. (She will never admit it, and I must hide this comment from her!). Once both sides finally get into their head that age is just a number, there is no other difference that should keep them from dating.
Only differences, experience and maturity...and she does nothing but surprise me everyday, and makes my past relationships seem like shiiitttttttttt. <3
My parents have been married for 26 years and my mom is 3 years older than my dad... it's obviously worked out fine for them!
Depends if you are on the same level
if her pro is only to one pro which is sex. then it won't last long.
My grandma who's now 67 is with her second husband and he's going to be 52 in January. They were married 25 years ago. He was one of my mom's friends when my grandma met him haha. So yeah it can last.
It can work, very well imo. I'm not biased or anything....;P My boyfriend is younger. It's only 2 years difference, but I don't care-he's my soulmate and I'm glad I found him.
My parents, although they have the same differences in age (my dad's two years younger than my mom), were iffy about it at first, not that I gave a rat's ass...he's amazing. Other than odd looks from some people when they find out I'M the older one and occasional "cradlerobber" jokes...no problems. Also, he's just as mature as anyone my age or older (I met him and thought he was 20, he's extremely smart and carries himself very well).
Sexual performance does show though...not going to keep that from you guys. Where my last ex (who was 23, compare to new boy at 17) could take an hour or longer to finish-not even because of my own performance-my now-love is finished in a shorter and more convenient amount of time for both of us.
I have dated younger guys and well...from my experience, they are too immature for me.
@ShimmerBodyCream@xanga - what are you two years old or something?
@betweentheshadowandthesoul@xanga - No, you cougar! stay away from me!
Well, I have had a relationship with an older woman, named Minerva Gonzalez, who loved me like a son, and who I loved like a second mother. And though nothing ever came of our relationship, we cared for each other deeply.
My point is this--sometimes, for young men who are seeking a good and faithful woman, it is best to seek one amongst the older women of the world, for they are mature, honest, and generally good to be with--at least some of the time. Younger women are, to say the least, too inexperienced and have little to offer. I would know, for I have had many an encounter with young women, who were evil, cold-blooded, and often without any heart. But with Minerva, she was kind, pleasant, and sweet.
It doesn't always have to involve sex, friends. It just needs to involve truth, honesty, and love.
S.C.
@ShimmerBodyCream@xanga - Hahahahahahahahaha. Sometimes I read these stupid articles just so I can see your comment and the response it generates.
You should watch the movie Harold and Maude.
she older than me (by 1 year, not a lot but still makes a difference)
when it comes to talking, i'm not sure either to say the honorific term or regular term + she's good in bed.on the flip side she claims I'm better than her ex-boyfriends (plus mature) but sometimes i feel a little role reversal goin on
no way...