A recent conversation between my older brother and myself went on about why he needed to borrow money from me. Rent, bills, child support, it was all getting to him. Somewhere during the conversation he tried to make himself feel better by stating that, unlike many other men in his situation (to our firsthand knowledge), he paid child support and therefore "took care of his daughter."
At this line of dialogue I had to interrupt him and burst the bubble on his supposed virtue. "Yo, you're supposed to take care of your daughter. You don't get extra points for doing something you're supposed to do. By your logic I would be a good citizen just 'cause I pay my taxes or I'd be a good boyfriend 'cause I don't beat the shit out of my girlfriend."
I've heard lines like this before. Men proud because they could pass a drug test put forth at work or proud because they have never been incarcerated. Women who were proud because they didn't have a restraining order filed against them. Both genders proud that they had never received a ticket from a police officer. STOP!!!!!
WTF happened to bare minimums?
I can understand that there are men out there that refuse to take care of their children for whatever reasons exist in their minds. Selfishness, Scumbag mentality, or belief that the child is not really theirs. But at what point did being a responsible parent become a virtue instead of an everyday fact of life?
"Oh, You can't judge me because you haven't walked in my shoes. It's so hard sometimes being a father." is a usual sentence I hear on the subject of being a responsible father, to which my response is always the same, "Who lied to you and told you it would be easy?"
What happened to bare minimums? Are people less responsible today?