In all honesty, I'd be equally down for either. Though, if I were in a relationship, would I be so willing to allow a 3rd into our bedroom? Hard to say .... it really depends. But if another chick and dude were to ask me to join them, I'd probably be pretty willing if conditions were suitable (i.e. if I found both attractive). If 2 straight dudes were to ask me ... there would be other variables that unfortunately factor in, as I will now explain with anecdotal evidence.
So, I've never had a chick and dude ask me to join them. Ah, life. But I have been asked by 2 supposedly straight dudes. 2
attractive dudes. And if I were to let my crazy run free, I would've accepted without hesitation. But alas, because social norms of our conservative Asian society forces me to keep my crazy somewhat tamed, I felt the overwhelming need to turn them down. Why? Because (1) if I were to do the deed, I'd feel the obligation to try to keep it secret because apparently being the F in a MMF is considered "shameful" and I hate having to bear the burden of keeping secrets about myself, and (2) secrets never stay secret forever and if word ever got out, my stock in wifey material would just plummet, like completely
flatline, it's time to file chapter 11 because you have just gone bankrupt.
Anyway, I've always wondered, why is MMF considered so much more "degrading" and shameful for the female than FFM is for the male? (I've dated a dude who had a FFM before and at first, I was pretty shocked, but after a few minutes I realized I didn't really care). I mean, I've seen pr0n, I see how MMFs are portrayed, but I don't think it necessarily has to be degrading for the girl. Just cuz its 2 dudes and 1 chick doesn't mean that you have to smack the chick around or call her 10 variations of whore or spit in her face.
Now, I only took 1 semester of theoretical calculus in college, so my logic is a little shoddy, but if you like beef whistles, isn't 2 beef whistles > 1? and 3 > 2 and so on and so forth? Where in that equation does shame and degradation factor in?
What would you think if you found out the chick you're dating has had a MMF?
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To quote a comedian: "2 males and one female isn't a threesome. It's a train, n*gga. That's a train." Haha! Sorry, I couldn't resist.
But if she had her threesomes, I wouldn't care, as long as she doesn't tell me all about it. You know?
I've been asked to a couple of threesomes but the only one I was willing to accept never happened. I would really like to do a MMF one but I know that wont be likely lol.
But then again, I might back out. I'm trying to watch myself more and be more conservative when it comes to sex. I know that if I continue the way I have been the last couple years, that no guy will find me decent enough to take home to mom.
It sucks that something as personal as our sexual behavior dictates what a guy thinks about us but thats the way life is.
Okay, I've been fairly sexually active in my past. I did let my crazy run free and let's face it, yes I've been called 10 variations of a whore and spit on and slapped around all because of it.
Let's run with it and say a female or a male asked to join in with me and my husband. I'd simply smack the crap out of them and then my husband for probably considering it. If we weren't in a relationship, however, I'd be all for it. Does it make me a whore? No. I'm sexually adventurous. =]
Lol if you're asian, then the fact that you've already had sex makes you bad wifey material!
But seriously, MMF? My mom refuses to buy me tampons because after I use my first one, I'll be "unpure."
I've done sexual things both ways, but not full on...
One summer I fooled around with two other chicks and a dude, so it was more like F/F/F/M. We basically got topless, made out...that kind of stuff but no full on sex.
Next summer, me and two guys who were my brother's friends (they were my friends first, but whatever) and I were hanging out, and we basically did everything but sex... Oral mostly.
And from both situations, I would feel more comfortable doing a FFM. With me and two guys, I felt like I could be taken advantage of right there (even though I specified no sex) because they could easily overpower me. With me and other girls with a male, I felt much more comfortable.
I've told my boyfriend about this, and it doesn't bother him because we're both STD free and I was honest about it. I told him that I would gladly have a threesome with him only if there was another girl-- not another guy, and only if he wanted to. And unlike most other guys, he isn't really into that fantasy so much. He was dumped by one of his ex's for another girl so although he still thinks lesbians are hot, he isn't obsessed with having a threesome. And besides, he can barely keep up with me.
I wouldn't say MMF is more degrading...But as a female, I just would feel more vulnerable, even if it was people I knew and trusted.
I plead the fifth.
As a male i wouldnt see how ur stock in wifey material should drop just because you have been involved in an MMF in the past. Hell if i think like most guys, i could care less about you have done in the past as long as it doesnt keep getting brought up and you dont bring nething from the past i.e. diseases to me.
HAHA. i totally agree with you.. but.... BEEFWHISTLE?? really? LOL. that's a new one.
i've had two FFMs. one was when i was single, and one with my boyfriend of 8 months and my friend. i haven't been sober for either, but no regrets. plus i knew my guy would enjoy it--i feel like a lot of guys would like to be part of a threesome at least once before they die.
i have no desire whatsoever to participate in any MMFs. I don't think I'd know what to do with myself in that position--maybe it IS the vulnerability? Maybe it's because I'm never THAT attracted to two guys at once; when i find a guy to focus on he's got my full attention. i just wouldn't be comfortable being the only chick in bed...
These are the rules: An FFM can counter an MMF. An FFM is more powerful---it's like a "Wild Draw 4" in the UNO card game. So, if your lady had one too many dicks, schedule an FFM session.
hmm.. If I found out my wife (or potnetial wife) had a MMF... I would think that was pretty awesome that she was so open.
Of course, I would also be a bit insecure that she handled 2 dudes BeefWistles LOL! I'm a little insecure about the size of my beefwistle so i don't really like thinking of her with others let alone 2!!
If she asked me to do a MMF or a FFM i would be up for both. But I might prefer the MMF. Sort of a strange thought, but it gets me a little thinking about seeing my wife blow on and take in an antother beefwistle while i watch!
@mynameisblueskye@xanga - lmfao
That's weird. I would think an MMF would be more degrading/shameful for the guys and an FFM would be more degrading/shameful for the girls. I mean, in an MMF the girl is getting the best out of the experience and in an FFM the guy is.
I always thought MMF's were gross untill I saw a porno where the girl was in control the whole time and enjoyed herself.
how about 5somes.
MMF reminds me of gang rape.
i'd only consider an ffm but i'm biased.
I'd only consider MF and that's only if we'd already gone through all the stages and made up our minds to spend the rest of our lives together.
I'd...not do either.
:DBUT, I don't think either is degrading. People should do what they want without people judging them.
MMF isn't different from FFM, and if a person wants one, he/she better not have a problem with the other.
Gotta face facts. It's always been a rule in most places in the world that women who fuck have a bunch of sexual partners are dirty. Men can sleep around to a greater extent without being viewed as filthy whores. I used to think that only men thought this way, but I got older and that changed. I have been completely surrounded by women since i was 14. I have maybe 4 male friends. Everyone else that I hang with is a woman and I spend time with my girls. I've learned alot about how the American woman views sex. Women think that sleeping around makes you dirty too. They also think that men that sleep around are more desirable. This has a lot to do with sexual knowledge and the obviousness that women want him so she will have a man that is desired by others. We, as men, are brought up to want to be married to a clean and virtuous lady. I'll fuck just about any woman that can pretend to be sexy long enough to bed me, but I have been very selective about who I chose to call my own. These ideals are fairly reasonable when you consider the acts of sex that we participate in; When a man and woman have sex the woman takes his penis into her and often times his ejaculate. She's got stuff insider her left behind by every sex partner. A man walks away from sex no different, physically. She has been tainted. As long as no STD's were exchanged, he has not. Also, women's pussies get loose. I won't even act like they don't. Inner muscles can be kept up and maintained, but outer lips get nasty and can't be controlled without surgical repair after certain styles of abuse, wear, and tear. With all that seated in your subconscious, you would naturally think that a woman having sex with two men, while nice to watch at times, is not something that a man wants to think that his woman was involved with EVER. Frankly most men that are married to a woman would like to be aloud to forget that she was ever having sex before him. I personally seek out virgins. On the other hand. Women that I know are all more comfortable and accepting of FFM threesomes. I could get a MMF if I asked for one, but FFM has actually become something that a lot of women are asking for before I even think of it. Matter of fact, I've found myself in the typically female postition of "giving" my partner a FFM threesome to make her happy. Bottom line: You women are nasty whores. LOL
I've had both kinds of threesomes, and as a bisexual female, I find FFM to be far more enjoyable.
I'm down for both. Would seem like something I would want to try at least six times
MMF = sex with two genders i love. sweeeeet.
Eiffel tower!!!
I'd never partake in either forms, 2 men would make me feel like a slut and I'm far too jealous to ever have another woman in the room with me.