Saturday, 15 August 2009

• Double Standards: Big Women vs. Big Men

  Chris Rock once made a distinct difference in men and women on Kill The Messenger, when it came to approaching the overweight opposite sex. Of course, he just used black men and black women in this.

  One interesting difference he points out is that some men, not just black, would do any woman, regardless of her weight, and also, pointing out that some women aren't as physically deep ("The reason black women are mad at the men for dating white women is black women aren't attracted to white men. Sure, they will f**k Brad Pitt...they'll give Beckham some pu**y", he says but he also says "no black woman wants to do George from Seinfeld").

  As far as the men liking any woman, Chris Rock's main line was this: "A black man would dropkick Keira Knightley to get to Rosie O' Donnell... and she don't even like men."  

  Now, let's pretend he didn't mention race. Here is where the double standards come into play. He is pointing out that men aren't really as shallow as some women make them out to be. Some men would go for any woman, but not too many men are as shallow as to dismiss big women the way some women might dismiss big men (or in this case, we will call them "teddybears"). Let's take time to discuss them both, shall we?

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  Some women are probably wondering what is so appealing about chubby women. To us, that is the same question as "why don't you care if I think I am fat?" Now, from my experience, I really cared less about a woman's weight, because I could see everything inside of her, if I dated her. But personally, it's not the weight that makes you attractive, it's how you wear and/or work it. Voluptuousness, the clothes, the ability to make a man appreciate more than just what you make yourself. Of course, your weight is NOT a fashion statement, but the least likely a woman cares about what you have to go through to get yourself a man or woman, let alone getting sexual pleasure, the more likely she may get herself one. Heck, why do you think BBW pornography is so successful (source: "HBO's Pornocopia")? They were also the subjects of Peter Paul Reubens, the painter from which the term "reubenesque" was from.

  Now, let's look at the "big-boned" male.

  

  The chubby male. The velvet teddybears. The stereotypes of women goes that some of them will hardly go for the chubby male. The reason for that? Let's face it. It's the same reason for anyone who discriminates by weight: mostly performance. Surely, that sounds sexist, but we have men who have bellies all over the world. And not many of them become the most talked about men with the hottest women. Heck, people got surprised when Jerry O' Connell dated Rebecca Romijn AFTER finding he was the former fat kid in Stand By Me. Now, the public is so shallow in Hollywood that some of them aren't willing to admit having a thing for big men.

  Being a man who had himself a BBW preference (which is not even set in stone), the reason I had a thing for some of those is not just the sexual attraction, but I like the types that don't really care about what they have to do to get a man. They know that they can be 180 pounds with fuller curves or 280 pounds, and somewhere in America, there is a man out there who would want some of it, anyway. If she decides to lose weight, it won't be because the world or a magazine told her to. But mostly, the women who let her confidence and her lust for life, instead of her vanity, do most of the talking are the ones that wind up the sexiest women on earth. Isn't that a bit right, guys?

  Let me take the time to turn this over to the men and women and ask: Men, why do you think big women are so appealing these days? And women, if you saw a teddybear (a big man), would you honestly date him, if he wanted you?

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