Saturday, 15 August 2009
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Understanding The Male: Q's & A'S
Let's face it... if you're a woman, you probably came on Mancouch to get a better understanding of why a man is the way he is.
I don't want to know about your personal life, so I'm just gonna take a guess and say that something might of happened between you and a guy, and now you're saying that you hate men... or something along those lines. So let's cut the bullshit. You want answers? You got em'. The only thing that I ask in return is that you just accept the truth.
From a guy's perspective, I can say that men are easy to understand. If you haven't noticed, most Mancouch entries consist of hot women, and anything else that is sexually related. When men talk to other men, that is honestly what we talk about. When we see a woman roaming down the street and she's strutting her stuff, we're gonna check her out, and then we're going to talk about her for a brief minute or so. Why? Because men have testosterone. We are built to procreate. We are built to have sexual desires, and we are built to have sex. So the question you might be asking yourself is why do all guys want sex? It is because we are biologically programmed to want sex. We... can't... help it.
Another question you may ask yourself is where can I find men who don't want sex? Finding a guy with feminine qualities (AKA "the nice guy") is very easy to find -- just date one your nice guy friends. However, finding a guy with manly qualities and isn't concerned about how much sex he gets is very difficult to find. Here's the reality of the situation: If you want to date a man, you have to accept the fact that he has a biological desire to have sex.
I hate to break it to you women, but men are not mind-readers. Mel Gibson is Mel Gibson, but we are men who cannot read minds. Not only can we NOT read minds, but we also can't understand hints of any sort. If you want to send a message to a man, you need to stop with the hints, and you need to tell him directly. Otherwise, we won't understand. Don't like him watching porn? Tell him. Is he not spending enough time with you? Tell him. Don't want to have sex right now? You get the idea. If you're not straightforward, he won't understand. Simple as that.
I'm not saying men are stupid -- you don't need to speak to a man in caveman language because he'll probably look at you like you're having a mental breakdown and slowly walk away to avoid being stabbed. If a guy doesn't understand any of your hints, don't expect him to understand what you're refusing to say. Also, don't expect him to care when you start arguing with him about things that have been bugging you and whatnot. Guys aren't dramatic people because we hate drama. We are pretty-laid back and easy-going people, in fact. We avoid drama by being straight-forward. How do you think we're so comfortable around our friends in the first place? It's because we usually don't try to come up with a valid excuse for something. We speak the truth. We communicate. Therefore, if you've got something to say...speak now, or forever hold your peace.
I know that there are tons of questions that women may have, but if I was going to type up an answer to all women's questions, I'd be writing a book and making some money. So you're shit out of luck for right now.
Guys, got anything else to add?
This guest post was submitted by Be-Randon.
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Comments (32)
lolz..i understand what you're saying..thanks for sharing..^_^
Haaa, exactly.
you really need to rephrase that first sentence im not so sure "came on Mancouch" is what you intendid to say perhaps "visit Mancouch" would be a better choice
sounds like this guy isnt getting a lot of sex. xD
the more you talk about it... the less you're gettin
I wish women would stop saying "nothing" and "nevermind" when they have a problem. That sort of goes with the not being mind reader thing, but honestly. Come on.
"I'd like a beer and I'd like to see something naked" comes to mind.
@pansybradshaw@xanga - Ahhaaa!!! I like "came on Mancouch" better.
Hmm..not all guys want sex all the time though. My best friend was dating a guy who didn't have sex with her as often as she would have liked.
And I'm pretty sure no woman enters a relationship hoping to never have sex with the guy she's dating. wtf? And I agree with the person who said that it sounds like you sure aren't getting any!! Maybe that's why you're so angry?
This made me laugh. Girls are so complex and guys are so simple that we make them complicated haha
while i enjoy mancouch 99% of the time, and tend to agree with the posts about men by men, this is 1% of the time that i didn't enjoy the post much.
there's a lot said about women "just understanding" men and "how they are." while i agree that we, as women, need to be educated about our men (because let's face it, they are wired differently), i also think it's equally important that men make an effort to understand women. we're "the way we are:, too, but that doesn't mean that our faults and idiosyncratic differences can't be overcome, just like those of men.
this entry just explained that men always want sex because they can't help it. while that may very well be true for the majority, there is always an exception to the rule. the problem is, chances are, you won't come across the exception - that's why he's the exception.
This post is pretty straight-forward actually.
Women just need to get over themselves and instead of flippin a bitch when a guy doesn't get the clues they're throwing out the first couple of times then go out with their friends until 2 in the morning and come home completely wasted and looking like a hooker.
Put me down as one girl who goes to the mancouch for the laughs. ^^
But seriously, this post brought to mind a very important philosophical discussion between the greatest minds of our time: http://questionablecontent.net/view.php?comic=1470
'don't expect him to care when you start arguing with him about things that have been bugging you and whatnot' <that is so true. my bf will completely ignore me and its so fucking aanoyinggg. he will avoid me like the plague.
but ya, i hate it cuz sometimes i actually have to talk or wanna argue about something important...and he wont listen.
eh, ohh well.
nothing i ever wanna argue about is hardly ever important tho. =p
i love it when girls think they can tell how often a guy gets laid or if he is getting some at all... (sarcasm) it just makes you come off as ignorant and preoccupied. But that's cool i mean even ignorant people have opinions.
huh, i don't understand. idk, but this post kind of makes me angry lol
@ShimmerBodyCream@xanga - Whatever makes your dried up vaginal bits feel better?
LOL This post is win. <3
@SurveysThatTakeupUrBOREDUM@xanga - One day you'll grow up and realize that "wanting to argue" is a childish emotion and that "wanting to fix a problem" is the adult version. You should learn that sooner rather than later before you get dumped.
@RazorBladeParade@xanga - not all girls say "nevermind or nothing" cause i don't say it and i'm definitely a girl. i guess i've always been really honest and upfront on how i'm feeling. and whatever i'm feeling, you can see it on my face or in the sound of my voice so i'm going to say exactly how i feel.
there are some girls who do that because they want the attention from their boyfriends but if she says that to you, then why can't you dig deeper to see if something's really bothering her or not? there's no harm in asking her just to confirm with her that every thing's ok.
I kinda feel like you just described me lol. Who wants a tomboy with a girly side?
@mewithoutu77@xanga - If someone isn't going to be upfront with me from the beginning it must not be important enough for me to dig deeper. I have a "say what you damn well mean" policy. No bullshit, no drama.
@Duke6932@xanga - Ha, you said flippin a bitch. your comment made me lol no lie. But you have a point. And I'm a girl, lol.
women want to date women and fuck men. thats why they always try to transform us to be more like them... then once we DO act like them they tell us to "man up" when we start giving them drama... then if we go cheat with someone who isnt trying to change us they get pissed.
make up your minds ;p
I'm one of those nice guys. I'm not really into sex, just want a close personal relationship. Girls don't really seem to like me in particular; I'm not very confident or independent, and (I think) girls like those qualities in men. I do severly care about how my female friends feel, and try to make them feel better if they're down. If I don't argue with a girl, it's less because I don't care and more likely that I just don't want to hurt anyone's feelings.
I think I'm blessed with having female friends who know me and tell me things fairly directly. Of course I might be assuming this because, let's face it, I can't even detect the hints. If they're there, I certainly haven't seen them yet.
@mewithoutu77@xanga - I forgot to say that telling guys what you're feeling is perfect. But you're saying that you help express that emotion with the look on your face and the sound of your voice. Stop right there, because even if those seem like the bare basics of showing your emotion for girls, guys (or at least I) wouldn't figure it out by those traits alone. Unless you're crying, that's usually a dead giveaway.
Guys can seem emotionally retarded, but we're just unaware is all.
I definitely agree on your "say what you mean" policy. We can't expect them to know what we mean just through hints. Not everyone is that perceptive. And I get the whole "men want sex" thing; truly I do. But I think they should be respectful enough not to mention it sometimes. We know. We're not stupid. But sometimes we want to talk about something else.
ugh. too many "man explaining men" posts. completely unnecessary.