My husband is a great speaker, intelligent, and can rock a suit. He is courteous and polite in his speech... until he gets with his friends.
The Hangover - a prime example of guys being idiots together."Ni**a please, yo momma! Aw man, I gotto take the ill shit. .. Did you just fart? Fa***t. Baby, would you mind checking my email while you're on the computer? OHHHHH what the f**k. Nah ni**a! F**k off. Bi**h got
owned!" (Excessive censoring it to make sure I don't offend the easily offended).
You can probably tell when he's talking to me, and when he's talking to his friends in the above example.
I'm accepting of a lot of things. I'm more of a guy in a lot
more things. But this is one of those things that... I just
don't get. You are not an idiot. You are not a 'gangster.' Why do you insist on sounding like one?
And he and his friends don't do it to "sound cool." This is really how they talk when they're together. Only when it's just them. I guess this is some kind of male bonding thing?
Can someone explain this phenomenon to me? Why do guys talk like this?
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Hahahaha...they like to be all tough-looking around their friends [x But of course, when it comes to girls, they're respectable.
cuz we're straight out da hood bruh. you can't stop me! you don't know me foo. i'm a THUG.
Hahaha, my husband can totally talk very well like this due to his background, but he rarely does fortunately--usually only when he's just joking around with one of his closest buddies who totally understands where he's coming from but neither of whom talk like this either really. Very good question, though :)
heh. we're guys. you'll just never got to some parts of us. um...emotional parts, i mean. of course you can get to all of our *physical* parts. with our pleasure.
I laugh at the numerous errors in just the one sentence they speak.
@complicatedlight@xanga - ahahhahhaaahhhahhahhahhah see, i love men, with his little comment love how you snuck that in
Men, are men. my significant other is a lil like that. Polite and respectful of me and others, but around his freinds, it gets a lil laxed. thats just how they are sometimes
be happy he doesnt embarass you in public with that language, like i witness some men doing, and it is a hot mess to see.
PeAce Love Soul
Haha The Hangover.
'Not at the table Carlos!'
I don't know. Guys are just weird.
I don't talk like that, and I don't really understand why people do.
because its fun to have fun with the guys sometimes
HAHAHA sounds like my ex-boyfriend!
He and I were the complete opposite, but he respected me enough to refrain from speaking like that around me and to me. I drew a line and he was 100% aware of the consequences had he crossed that line. I once reminded him, "I'm your girlfriend, not your homie. Got that?" He doesn't speak like that to sound cool or to sound 'gangsta'. He was heavily influenced by rap and hip hop culture when he was growing up. Most of the guys with whom he hangs out talk in that fashion as well so it is easy for him to speak like that.
i can understand why men talk like that, but i dont like when people talk all ghetto and stuff like how caminjammers was expressing himself.
that's disgusting. why would one want to sound like a gangster? gangs are bad!
One it shouldn't matter how he talks around his friends, what you described above just sounds like how certain people talk "gangsta" or not. Now if your husband is a preppy white guy raised in the suburbs then he's probably being mockingly racist when he talks like that. If not then I say turn your ears away if you don't like it. My main beef is why is their a picture from the Hangover accompanying this piece? What does that movie (great as it may be) have to do with talking "gangsta"?
*laughs* Great example!
I think it's probably just a way for them to relax and, what's the phrase? "Let it all hang out"?
People don't like being themselves all the time. Think about it like girls' night out. Okay, we're a little less... dramatic? about it, but you're definitely a different, more carefree person at the pub with the lasses than you are at home doing the dishes.
If you listen carefully, you'll notice that people's speech patterns and tone of voice change depending on whom they're talking to. Sometimes people take this to an extreme. I think about it like little boys playing big tough soldiers or firemen or whatever. He and his buddies are having fun.
So let him have his fun. But if the cursing gets too much, let him have it elsewhere. (No need for children to get quite that thorough an education.)
oh helllllllls to the NAW!!!!!!!!!!!
Man hail yeah. I talk like that when I'm around my friends. [the black ones anyway] lol. Just because it's funny, and fun, and it's really just....how we talk sometimes. Sometimes it's appropriate. Shit, I mean what the hell nigga, can we be our fuckin selves mah nigga, surously. =P
I talk like that sometimes. It's fun and since I've grown up with shit like dat why da hell not.
It's silly and fun to sound very macho and stupid. Guys - who knows what goes on in their strange minds?
@MissPixieGlitter@xanga - I guess it's because we know its bad, but we do it for the fun of it. It's the same reason millions of women do the single ladies o nYouube, no matter how ridiculous the song is.
@mistersoulja@xanga - "Mofo, why don't you like that ghetto slang? You soundin' real bourgie right about now, mutha...you know? Start expressin' yourself on deez nuts, hoe! How about that, mufugga?? Don't make me beat yo' azz with my dick, bourgie azz nugga!"
Haha! I'm just kidding, man. I don't really speak like that. Not around educated speakers, anyway. But you know it's fun and hilarious, once you get all of it out of your system. You know?
b/c gangstas got the brothahoooood. and boys with boys = brotherhooood
@Meowmeowkimmaee@xanga - It;'s not just the guys either .Women sometimes do it, too. Mostly, when they are angry.
@mynameisblueskye@xanga - Oh maybe it's just my silly friend then who tries to talk gangsta but fails horribly so it's all a big joke anyway. Haha
Because they're stupid.
- Kunoichi
Mostly for comedic effect.