Saturday, 11 July 2009
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Getting caught looking
Is it okay to look at other women (or men), while in a relationship?
Without any necessary sexual tensions?
Have you done it before?
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yes I have
When she looks at people she finds sexually attractive, I find that it really does not bother me.
do it, just dont do it around your girl/boyfriend. youre supposed to be more interested in them.
i dont see anything wrong in it. as long as hes not looking at her for a long time like with those "i wanna fuck her eyes." as long as its a simple "oh she was cute." it would be okay. I mean Id rather he be open with me then just not say anything at all cause I know I find other guys attractive and he finds other girls attractive, its normal. just cause hes/shes with you doesnt mean you're the best thing that has ever happened to mankind.
there are def other people better looking then you. you deal with it. but hes/shes with you so dont make a hissy fit about it....
Everyone does it sometimes. It doesn't bother me if I see my boyfriend looking at another girl. Sometimes he'll say, "Well, she looks good" if there's some tension in the air, I really don't care though because I'm pretty secure with us.
LOL.
Only if they have red hair.
I have no problem with him looking, even when he's with me. It's kind of a biological function I think. What I DO have a problem with is when he starts telling me how great her ass is or whatever else. That's annoying, and kind of disrespectful.
Looking and STARING are two completely different things, as Mina has stated previously. But, I have no problems. I'm one of those "people-watchers" anyway. I fully trust my guy enough.
Well if someone or something attractive or provocative catches your eye and you notice with a glance, that is human and perfectly normal and should never be interpreted as disrespect. But to be ogling with a lustful stare might suggest to me, that your attention span cannot accomodate the kind of concentration needed to sustain a serious relationship.
My husband and I point out hot people we see all the time. There is nothing wrong with looking, and when you are secure in your relationship and trust each other fully flirting doesn't hurt either. When it comes down to it, we're coming home to each other so who cares?!
My ex and I used to sit around in public places judging the bodies (mainly asses) of various girls that walked by. To this day, we will hang out with 2 of our mutual friends (who are in a relationship) and we'll all do the same thing. The way i see it, as long as it doesn't go beyond looking, it's alright. As long as he's jsut like "that's a nice ass" then carries on, there is no problem. The problem comes when/if he starts wanting more with the girl.
I see no problem as long as it isnt a long oogle or something. Nothing wrong with glances or a double,triple checking lol.
He's only looking, not touching. It's not fair to expect your man to not find other women attractive. It's controlling and makes you look like you have self esteem issues.
I check out guys all the time, duuuuh. I'm not in a relationship right now, so I do it without feeling guilty =D
i do it sometimes but it's harmless, as long as i'm not touching. i've seen the guys that i date look also.
I like to go for a "look but don't touch" policy. Besides, I like to check out the ladies as much as my boyfriend does. We've talked about the body types we preffer in women, and he keeps trying to get me to watch porn with him as part of our foreplay.
i'm pretty sure everyone looks at...well, everyone. not just the opposite sex, but anyone and everyone. it's hard not to notice the people around you, attractive or not.
Neither of us do it, but I used to be so paranoid of him looking at other girls just because he has problems with eye-contact, so I thought he was just checking other girls out all the time when we were out. Turns out, he doesn't make eye contact often no matter what the setting or who he is talking to - it's just an issue he has. And yeah, I was jealous when I thought he was looking at other girls - it comes naturally to me. I'm not a fan of the "look but don't touch" idea because I have seen so many relationships end in infidelity because of that kind of policy.
@BorninLA@xanga - Well said!
@buddy71@xanga - Me too. I agree. You can learn so much about someone just by watching them.
@coconut_dream@xanga - it does become kind of fun as long as you both agree that it is only looking at and not looking for.
yes i do. God puts good looking people on this earth for a reason. And my bf does make a fuss about it at times...but I dont mind him checking out other women.
... Â No. Â I'm pretty selfish. Â I don't share. Â xD
Plus, I don't really see anything in other guys anymore. Â It's not just loyalty. Â I don't find other guys all that attractive. Â He's so... Â *ahem* sexy that I don't care for anyone else.
I'm not married. :P
OR in a relationship, at least for another 7 years, when I'm done with college. More EyeCandy for me. XD
Chris Evans is my EyeCandy...I personally think it's human nature. How can you not? I'm not saying you have to think, omg this person is so f*cking hot , I wish I could do them, but there's nothing wrong with admiring the world's beauty nd God's creations. ;]
Of course, my boyfriend thinks the opposite and yells at me a lot for "looking"...even when I'm not even looking at anyone! And seriously--does it matter when you have a hottie yourself? If you love someone, doesn't matter if there's naked models walking around you.
@bleedingdirt_doll@xanga - Me too!!! Idk why people have to be soo uptight about it!