Saturday, 11 July 2009
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Getting caught looking
Is it okay to look at other women (or men), while in a relationship?
Without any necessary sexual tensions?
Have you done it before?
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I actually do not recall doing it before while in a relationship. However friends of mine have always had deals where it is okay for the other one to look at the opposite sex, it just saves a lot of angst and shows a level of trust.
I don't do it.
But I yell at my boyfriend for doing it. Constantly.
No I don't do it, I think my girl does. Agh it drives me crazy sometimes. Boo.
lol guys jus do this simple thing...whisper...plastic.... and give yer SO a knowing look...
i am a people watcher. i think it is perfectly normal for either sex to look.
I don't do it. But when I have a boyfriend I don't mind him doing it, cas usually I'll check out the girls with him. I'm cool like that.
Who hasn't?
hmm... lol i think everyone does it.
I think it's normal to look. Throwing a shit fit over it just means that you or your significant other have some insecurity/jealousy issues. I look all the time and so does my girlfriend, neither of us care that the other does it. It's purely eye candy, all sugar, no substance.
well i don't see how you avoid it unless you are blind or keep your eyes closed all the time
@KassieintheSkywithDiamonds@xanga - i had a gf that would do that. in fact she would point out some and ask what i thought about her. lol usually it was how they were dressed more than anything else.
we would try and figure out why a couple were a couple. lol it is good to be secure that way in a relationship.
@buddy71@xanga - Haha yeah exactly. Everyone says I'm weird for doing that, but it really doesn't bother me to do it. Only thing is, any boyfriend I did that with, wouldn't judge other guys with me and be okay with it lol
@KassieintheSkywithDiamonds@xanga - too bad. spoil all the fun like that. maybe they thought it was too "gay" lol
I never oogle, or stare, a glance is fine I guess.
I once gave a long stare at Chelsea Handler and Olivia Wilde on the streets of Hollywood with my lady on separate occasions. If she was angry she didn't display any on her face. So with her it was OK. Another lady might not have let it slide.
Meh, I look at people but not with sexual eyes... just a "(s)he is good looking". Nothing more than that. My boyfriend doesn't look at others with sexual eyes either. I've never caught him looking at another girl.. or boy [phew] haha.
No.
it is natural
I think it's in human nature to look at other people you may find attractive, I mean after all we're surrounded by others constantly that arent the one we're with, looking is okay to an extent but if you're undressing them with your eyes or looking at them longingly like you'd love to smash then yeah, its disrespectful. I think it's okay as long as you maintain a level of respect for your relationship and the person you are with, just know if you're caught doing it, it could cause some jealousy, expecially in women since that's how we work. We're jealous creatures by nature, we cant help it, its just how we were built. Some more so than others btw. Haha
I try not to do it, sometimes it isn't always easy to just look away, especially when caught off guard, but I like to keep my eyes on the women I'm dating, and would like (not expect) the same treatment. As long as it doesn't leave the eyes, I'm not too worried about it.
Look is one thing but STARING is another. After 5 seconds, I think you've seen enough. I understand it's human nature but you know you're in a relationship. I think it's worse when you're with your SO & staring.
To give other girls a once-over: it's often a reflexive thing, and I can't stand when I hear girls get mad about it.
I don't care if Megan Fox is in the room: To stare, as another person said, for over 5 seconds, is definitely NOT reflexive and should be rightfully scolded. (You'd probably get huge bonus points if you kept your eyes on your SO if she DID happen to enter...) Unless of course, you're single like me, in which case I get free reign ;)
- John
@Shinbi_Belldandy@xanga - Agreed.
It's perfectly natural to observe someone entering your peripheral vision or perhaps they're directly in your line of sight. There's a rather large difference between an observation and ogling someone else.
As for my SO and I...I don't care if he looks. As long as he remembers who he's actually with. :P
Yeah its ok to look!! What's not ok is saying ''damn she/he is hot!'' when your SO is around. I've had a few gf's who would see girls and ask if I found them attractive and if I did I would say yes, but I'd always point out something about them that I didn't like to make her feel better about me saying yes. I don't care if my gf wants to check out other guys, I know there's plenty of other men out there she will find attractive, but I'm the one she's with so why should I care as long as she doesn't act on it. Look at it this way; my dog doesn't get jealous when I look at other dogs...