Friday, 10 July 2009
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First Impressions
So what do you look at first when meeting a woman (or man)?
Their body?
Confidence?
Personality?
How they treat you and/or others?_____________How do first impressions impact you?
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Confidence for sure! The people who are shy usually have sucky personalities as well and I hate taking the time to break them out of their shell.
I like people with big personalities. They don't have to be crazy but I like them to be confident in themselves. Even then, confidence alone can change a lot about a person to me. People who are confident immediately look more attractive and get brownie points on personality.
First impressions are pretty important to me, but people can (and usually do) grow on me, I'm too easy that way!
All of those, and also their clothing, how they walk, if they make eye contact, their mannerisms, and how they speak.
probably the last two. they have to be interesting or i probably won't bother getting to know them more. sad but true.
Their hand. To see if they are smoking.
@MangoWOW@xanga -
"The people who are shy usually have sucky personalities..."That is not true at all.
Their shoes...
They way they dress.
I know I know it's weird, but that is the very first thing. After that its a bit of everything else.
@Kaythan@xanga - Very true. TV pushes the stereotype that the shy ones are actually nice humble people but in truth they're usually just selfish and annoying. Sort of the party pooper.
All of the above!
Depends on how we met I guess. If it's like face to face then it'd be their personality but if I see them across the room or wherever it'd be their body.
I'm shallow, how they look is what 1st attracts me. Then personality.
@MangoWOW@xanga -
I can't speak for the people you've met, but the ones in my life can turn out to be really fun. Sometimes they really come as they are, and they're not so great. You can't always hastily generalize a person upon first impression.
@Kaythan@xanga - I have to ask: when I said that "The people who are shy usually have sucky personalities" did you ignore the "usually" and just assume I meant everyone? Also, did you ignore the part where I said I hate taking the time to break them out of their shell, which would normally imply that I do take the chance to get to know these people?
These questions aren't meant to be mean or rude but I honestly get annoyed when people take a generalization (which is useful in simplifying what would normally be a long winded sentence) and act as if we honestly lump everyone into one category.
i may make a judgement on a person when i first meet them, but i never would label someone just at first sight.
besides, i suck at first impressions :\
Sense of humor, definitely. If they can take my jokes and fire right back at me without flinching, we'll get along just fine.
@Kaythan@xanga - agreed.
@MangoWOW@xanga -
I did not ignore the "usually". "Usually" is a synonym for "generally". Therefore a generalization.
"Also, did you ignore the part where I said I hate taking the time to break them out of their shell, which would normally imply that I do take the chance to get to know these people?"Obviously you'd have to, to know that they're "selfish and annoying". And how kind it is of you to bestow your gracious personality onto these clearly undeserving people. You're a real winner. lol I'm done here, this is ridiculous.
@Kaythan@xanga - Ooh so you're touchy. You still haven't budged me with the "usually" thing. It seems like you just babbled without a point. Yes, usually is a generalization and I think I made my opinion known that generalization is a bad thing and doesn't mean that I think EVERYONE is that way.
And its great to see you be sarcastic without a point, again. I might think they suck but I take the time to get to know them first, like a good person, and then make my decision (as we've both taken the time to point out).
I look at how they present themselves first - hair style, what they're wearing, how they hold themselves, etc. It says a lot about their personality, which I notice soon after, depending on if I'm atually interacting with them, or just observing them. Then I notice things like confidence, body, and how they treat others.
First impressions are important, and the way you present yourself is crucial in telling what kind of person you are because you're not always interacting with someone first thing when you meet. Light travels faster than sound! Even though we like to think "you can't judge a book by its cover", you can still get some sort of a preview.
Everything.
Now to respond to the actual entry--I try not to assume the best or worst in anyone. My response to people is usually defined by my mood, and how outgoing they are, yes. If they're quiet, I give them time to emerge. Oh and if I'm meeting them through a mutual friend, I sometimes go by what they've told me prior to meeting the person.
Before they open their mouth, their appearance. When they start talking, their words. After they stop talking, their body language and gestural quirks.
I examine their body language, what they're wearing; the people they surround theirselves with
fingernails and general cleanliness. if a guy has dirty fingernails...no way.