It's back again, guys: Volume 4 of wading through the Estrogen Swamp that is my apartment. When I left off
last week, I was worried that just like the Power Rangers or
Voltron, the girls might sync their cycles to create some sort of a mega-cycle or something ridiculous like that.
Crisis averted. Though I never stopped to ask if everyone was at the same point, I just was on my toes and extra attentive to keeping things clean in the apartment. Since I didn't give anyone a reason to yell at me, I think I've gotten out relatively unscathed.
I'll be honest though: I really liked the idea of wearing a suit of armor around the place. I think it would've been a good look for me.
The new development in the apartment, however, is a little bit more interesting: the girls have taken to judging girls that I bring back to the apartment.
Harshly. All of the time. It doesn't seem to matter whether the girl is a good friend of mine, a romantic interest, an acquaintance, or whoever. No one gets excluded. I feel like my mom wouldn't even escape the wrath at this point.
The final straw came a couple of days ago, when one of my roommates walked in on a girl and I hooking up. Since then, she'll offhandedly bring it up, seemingly at every opportunity she can.
Another brewing situation: a
couple of weeks ago, I had mentioned a hookup with one of my roommates' friends. At the time, this was okay; however, more recently when this girl has come back to the apartment, it's become an issue with my roommate.
I'm not trying to be arrogant or anything, guys, I really just don't know how to handle this situation. Unlike the tampon thing, this doesn't show any signs of stopping or slowing down, and this apartment is going to be a miserable place to live if it keeps going.
What do you guys propose I do?
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Talk to your roommate about it, find out where she stands and why. Do not try to defend yourself as it will come across as de-validating her feelings. When you see things from her perspective, try to say somethign like "Okay, I can see why you would feel that way" then tag on your own sentiments. Just a thought.
uh say STFU because you're paying just as much in rent as they are and therefore have as much right to bring whoever you want back.
-cringe- What a terrible situation to be in. That's why I can't stand being around groups of girls for more than a few minutes at a time. They're a nonstop source of judgment and drama.
Is it the same roommate? Maybe they (or she) has a crush on you and is jealous of potential competition. Or maybe she's just a cunt. Who knows.
my bf was in the same situation as you (i being the friend of the roommate who hooked up with him =P), and his female roommates got so bitchy that they kicked him out and he was briefly homeless. they never even discussed anything with him until the kickout too, so watch your back.
frontal lobotomy. they will lose all their emotions and personality and never bother you the same way again. or you can neuter them.
make harsh judgments and bitch about any guys they bring around? unless they're not getting any guys...then the reason they're being bitchy is because they are horny and you are giving your afternoon delights to someone else.
In some cases, girls are more competitive than guys are. I sense jealousy.
They're women. Unfortunately, it is our god-given prerogative to look down on everything that men do and to insult, guilt and terrorize you into tears and shame.
Don't worry, eventually they'll kick you out and you won't have to worry about it.
But seriously? Tell them to STFU. Just because they're not bringing back guys for you to criticize doesn't mean you should be attacked like that. As for the friend thing... I don't blame her, even if it is kind of silly. If she doesn't like that you're hooking up with one of her friends, she'll eventually figure out a way to connive her friend away from you.
Some girls are just plain crazy and there's nothing you can do about it. But I think you'd be safe to take your roommates aside, one by one, and talk to them about any problems. It gives them a chance to be honest with you without humiliating you in front of the other girls. How did you come to be living with girls, btw?
I would just ask those girls why they think it's their business, and that it kind of bugs you when they judge every girl you hang around. Ask them to stop. And if they don't do it back, sounds immature but it would eventually get your point across as long as these girls have some sort of IQ.