We get a number of comments on Mancouch saying things like, "
I want people to realize that different people want different things regardless of gender." I completely agree that we are all individuals, and that it's not fair to cram all men into one stereotype and all women into another.
But are there any differences at all between men and women?
Well I guess it's clear that there are differences between men and women. But I guess it comes down to a practical question: do you treat men and women the same way all the time?
For me, I spent a decade attempting to do just that. When I entered college, I was extremely egalitarian. I treated men and women as individuals, and was very careful never to let any gender stereotypes color my interactions with anyone. It worked ok, and I felt really good about being so evolved. However, my dating life sucked.
Over the years, I slowly started to pick up on some differences between men and women. Some of them weren't true all that often - I found that men were becoming more female, and women were becoming more male. But still, I found that treating women differently than I treated men had a huge impact on my friendships and relationships. My dating life completely turned around.
In my experience, I've found that there are important differences between men and women. I am really happy I tried to be PC and 100% egalitarian for a decade, because I learned so much from that experience. But it didn't work for me, and I had to learn from that. Now I vary how I treat men and women... but I'm really careful to keep in mind that each person is an individual, and could surprise me at any moment.
Anyway that's just my experience. What about you: do you treat men and women the same way all the time? Or do you vary things a bit between the sexes...
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i try to but it doesn't work for me. they act differently & they like different things..
the girls would go "ewww..omg...gross" & i hate that. i hate their girly shit.i favor guys over girls just because i get along more with the guys.i can act like myself around my guy friends but i always have to be somebody else around my female friends just so they could 'accept' me. if i was too comfortable as myself around the females..they think that i'm weird and creepy but my guy friends think that i'm awsome and dope. i can fart & talk about dirty-out-of-this-world things with my boys & laugh.
I try to treat people as individuals.
When I was in college, I noticed the guys were way more effeminate than the guys I went to high school with.
I also try to treat everyone the same but... it's quite impossible to hangout with guys the same way I do with girls, for me at least, I still haven't figured out exactly why though.
I try to treat everyone the same, but there are significant differences between the genders, other than physically. I hate when feminists are like "don't treat any woman like a princess, because she'll hate it". I wouldn't hate it at all! I don't like being treated like "one of the guys"
I think s0o..
I think actually..
we are all the same..in a way
just in different bodies.. lol
It's not about treating everyone in the exact same way. It's about giving everyone the same opportunities and not expecting them to act a certain way just because they are anything.
I agree with @LadyLibellule@xanga, just treat people like individuals.
never knowingly stared at a mans ass...
Personally, I like hanging with guys better. I can have burping contests with my guy friends, tell dirty jokes without exactly feeling like a slut, and just relax and have a good time, I know the girls I hang out with think it's kinda nasty, but I still enjoy their company. It depends on the person, I'm just myself around the people I want to see the real me, and I don't treat them differently than the next, gender doesn't concern me there, but if I've just met them, it changes how I act on both sides. I try to be more modest with the girls in the beginning, and for guys, a puzzle wanting to be solved.
I treat them differently...I suppose for the same reasons as the OP, my dating life would suck if I didn't. Plus, I have never wanted to be more than friends with a woman.
I don't know - I treat people as individuals I guess, but at the same time a persons gender is a part of who they are. I like to be treated like a woman, though.
I don't ask guys if there's anything on my butt during my period. Don't know if that's a pro or con for them.
i don't treat people differently based on gender. and my social life doesn't sucked at all. ;)
for me, i talk to them differently just because i wouldn't say something i would say to a female to a male or vice versa. i would like us to be treated equally but who am i kidding right?
I feel that you can't treat men and women the same way. We are the same race (human), but the genders are different. They have different functions; therefore, different sets of behavior that are indicative of those functions. Personally, I haven't noticed how I am with men versus how I am with women... but I'm sure that I do relate to each differently.
the penis and vagina come to mind...
we can pee standing up.
@Lucid_Dreams_and_Sunsets@xanga - *daps* and we don't give birth... thats about the only difference. people cling on to gender roles too hard these days. women do this and men do that... blah blah blah, its all in your minds. we have far more similarities than differences. PEOPLE are different, as a SPECIES we are the same.
We also aren't nearly as insecure as they are and definitely not as obsessed with our emotions.
In my experience, guys want to feel like a man. they act and communicate like "us" in private, but in public that's when stereotypes come into play.
it depends on how wrapped up into their ego a person is.
definitely varies. reason being: men and women are wired differently, and react to certain things differently from one another.