There were a few schools of thought on
whether or not guys should hold their girlfriend's purses.
We thought we'd do a a tally of the comments to see which side made a more compelling case, and declare a Mancouch Verdict.
PROS: MEN SHOULD CARRY THEIR GIRLFRIEND'S PURSES1) Real Men Don't CarePrincess_Lucky1731: One time I was leaving the movies with my fiance and I was putting on my coat and my fiance just grabbedd my purse from the seat it was on and carried it out of the theater. I was like "you're the first guy I've ever met that would willingly ever hold a girl's purse. Not to mention it's pink and not just any pink but bright pink." And he was like "So what it doesn't make me any less of a man does it me wanting to hold my girl's purse." I was like"No it doesn't, it just makes you considerate, although I'd never ask you to hold it for me." And he was like "And if anyone thinks it does I'll pop them one because who wouldn't do it for their girl if they really cared."
2) Men Should Stop Being So Insecureblack_lie: oh come on, get over your insecurities. it's just a purse. when i give my purse to my bf to hold (which is not often, btw), he flaunts it, putting it over his shoulder and everything
chococatcrazi: if she does need you to hold it for a sec how does this one little act strip you of your manhood? If that's all it takes, the dude wasn't much of a man to begin with.
cuzimlexxi: Stop being so insecure and just hold the damn purse.
3) Men should carry it for Safety's SakecRyStaL_rAiNe: i ask him because i don't want it to get snatch[ed] while it's on the ground
CONS: GIRLS SHOULD CARRY THEIR OWN #@%$ PURSES1) If you have a purse, it's your own responsibility to carry it - especially if it's a Giant PursewordsXwithoutXremorse: When shopping with a girlfriend, I have no problem whatsoever holding her bags, her jacket, etc. Her purse is a different story. YOU brought all that random shit you don't need, you hold onto it.
C_UNIT42: if you have a lot to carry i'll hold something else for you, but keep your own damn purse.
2) Some girls just like to emasculate their menKasumiCelesta: I always find it repulsive for women to make men hold their purses (not so much if the guy offers), especially for the sole purpose of seeing if they'll get embarrassed.
3) Guys will just lose the purselive_for_love: I don't think you'd want your guy keeping track of your purse. No offense, fellows, but you guys can tend to get side tracked sometimes. The last thing a chick needs is for her purse to go missing.
Hmm, it's 3-3 - a draw. I think that calls for a split decision.
So here's the official Mancouch verdict: it's not that big a deal... you should hold your girlfriend's purse if she asks. But a wise girlfriend will only ask if she really needs it...Now let's go back to that picture of the man holding the purse.
Do you think he is more or less of a man because he is holding his girlfriend's purse?
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i wouldn't do it.
and if forced to, extend the arm away from your body, and make it obvious that you're reluctant to do it by having a disgruntled look on your face and holding the strap with two fingers.
More of a man. It means that he doesnt give a f*** what other people think and just does what he thinks is right, and also that he really cares about his girlfriend
Would anyone honestly think it was the guy's purse anyway? Just don't hold onto it by the straps.
i doesn't make him less of a man to carry my purse for a few seconds while i'm putting my coat on, looking through a clothing rack, while i put my shoes on, etc. i had an ex who used to put his keys, wallet and two cellphones in my purse while we shopped. i don't mind carrying those things in my purse, if he had to hold my purse for a few seconds, it's not gonna kill him. it's not like i want him to carry it, he might lose it and my whole life is basically in my purse.
If it gives you the promise of getting laid more than or equal the amount of times carrying her handbag, then I say ....carry the darn thing!
He's neither more nor less of a man if he's holding a purse. He looks a little silly though. But the most important point to me is if a woman chooses to have a purse She should carry it. Yes, it is her responsibility to carry it.
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If it's a really big purse I just feel tempted to try hiding inside it.
the more important question is will a guy run to the store for me and get some feminine products when i'm too crampy and misreable to go myself.
I do think it takes a real considerate man to stroll up to the cash register with tampons or pads.
No! I agree with all of the pros. Not so much with the cons. The men shouldnt mind. Okay fine, I agree with the fact that some girls bring gigantic bags with absolutely something to the most ridiculous unnecessary items but seriously would it kill you to hold it for a little while? You're most likely sitting down ANYWAYS. Not like we females dont wait for you guys when the males are browsing for video games or electronics.
i think if a guy is holding your purse, he has the right to rummage through and go through your stuff. That means your phone too if it's in your purse.
if you don't think that's right, DON'T LET HIM HOLD YOUR PURSE.
4 Ways To Respond To Purse Holding Situations
Denial: "Purse? What purse? There is no purse."
Distraction: "Why am I holding a purse...? Um... You have great boobs!"
Manly Deception: "There are weights inside. I'm just toning my biceps."
Crusade: "I'm holding this purse to challenge unfair perceptions about gender roles in the interests of justice and social equality!"
askin my bf to hold it for me while i do something is like askin one of my girl friends to hold i. no big deaal. really who gives a fk? if the man is with a woman and has a purse in his hand it's obviously not his and he's obviously being nice. and if he care what otherss think so much then he's insecure n i wouldn't want an insecure man. if holding a purse makes you less of a man, then u weren't much of a man to begin with.
I think they look silly when I see guys holding their gf's purses, especially if the purse design is ultra feminine. I wouldn't let my man look stupid like that.
I have had my guys hold my purse but not long. It was only if I had my hands full. Most of my guys ask if they need to hold it. I generally tell them no. I prefer keeping it close to me.
That's an ugly purse...no one should hold that.
NO, NO, NO, NO, NO.
He looks in pain. Hahahah!
I didn't expect to get quoted...wow ^_^
Poor guy. He looks a bit anxious for his lady to come back.
Oh well, at least he's not carrying this Fendi.
It's HOW he carries it that matters. I saw a guy who actually hangs a tiny gold bag on his wrist like a girl.
if my girlfriend asks me to hold her purse, i'm going to do it. i know i said that i'd hold other things for her, but she can hold her own purse. but of course i'm not going to say that to her, thats just how i feel when she asks me to hold it so she can hold the bags that she just got, not the one she brought with her.
i just think its dumb when women say: 1) ''hold my purse while i put on my coat''. well if we weren't with you then you'd just put it down, so why not just do that? 2) ''someone might steal it if i put it down''. uhh, again, if we weren't here, you wouldn't even say that, you'd just put it down next to your feet and it would be fine. 3) ''hold my purse so i can look through these clothes''. what would you do with it if we weren't here? uh, you'd hold on to it while you look through the clothes, so since you're perfectly capable of doing that without us, you can still do it with us. 4) ''hold my purse while i go to the restroom''. are you freakin' serious?! when its that time of the month and you keep your tampons in there you have to bring it with you, so we know there's a place to put it when you go.
of course making any of those arguements will just make your gf mad, and its not like holding the purse will hurt you, so just hold the damn thing. i guess keeping her happy keeps me getting laid, so holding the purse really isn't a big deal.
I think he's more of a man for being nice to his girl, but men should really get the F* over it. Seriously. My fiance makes a big deal about it all the time and it's not like I even ask THAT OFTEN! I only ask him if my hands are totally full for a second, like if I'm putting on or taking off my coat and I don't want it on the floor.
My purse isn't that girly looking anyway. Stop being so damn insecure about it. Ugh.
great post, BTW!
Wait a second... guys are going to lose the purse? No offense, but I think the shoe would better fit the other foot on this one. I read an article a while back about a woman getting her car stolen because she got out to take a note off the back window. Guess what- she left her purse in the car... smooth eh?
"This looks like a job for...Married Man! Able to carry any purse his wife chooses to bestow upon him. Immune to Will and Grace reruns. He'll buy tampons without hesitation. He'll even do the dishes!"
I suppose it's all legal if the guy is married. Besides, if somebody steals your purse on my watch, that'll give me the proper clearance to kick some ass.
He can do what he wants, purse or not. I just know I would NEVER make my boyfriend carry my purse and go carting around my stuff with me while I shop like some pack mule. Your boyfriend should also be your best friend.
Would you make your best girlfriend carry all your shit? And, what's more, would you string them along on an activity they (I'm generalizing) don't enjoy? I don't think so.
@Forever_Unlimited@xanga - Oh, and your post made me laugh =]