Monday, 01 June 2009
Here's the setup: Boy meets girl. Boy gets girl's number. Now what?
I'm not making this post as a way of bragging, but I pull a lot of numbers. It's not like I'm one of those guys who just meets a chick and asks her. I actually take the time to have some real conversation and if she's a fun person I'll ask for the digits. This begs the serious questions.
When do you call? I know there is all of this stigma about when the appropriate time is. "Wait two days," or "Call her the next day." Come on guys. Those two ideas are completely contradicting. We don't have any kind of system down by now that lets us know what is the right way to go about it?
Do you call or text? This one I've also had trouble figuring out because if people don't know you very well they're usually more comfortable just texting. The problem is that if you just text someone it usually doesn't turn into any real conversation and it ends randomly. I usually try to stick to calling, plus I've got a hunch that if a woman gives you her number it shows more initiative and confidence to just call her. The downside to this is if they are the type that screens their calls very closely. You have to prep a message. WTF do you say to an answering machine? "You remember you met me at ___ and we had fun... I thought we had fun. It was fun. And... I was just seeing what you're up to so give me a call back... If you want. I don't care, it would be cool to hear from you though... uh... bye?"(End awkward quote!)
The main issue is this: I pull a lot of numbers and I have such a horrible turn over rate. possible someone could shed some light on the best method. It's hard enough searching through all of the women to find one interested in meeting you. Then finding one who is fun, meets your basic requirements, and is actually into you as well. Then on top of this finding one who gives out the digits not out of pity or sympathy. (Women, if you don't want to then don't. I see it all of the time. Not for myself mind you because I tend to play this one safe and ask girls only if I have some kind of connection with them.) But to meet a good average up to this point and still lose out really hurts my probability. What are your suggestions?