1. The umbrellaSometimes the umbrella is just not big enough to cover both of you completely. In this case, a gentleman would obviously lean the umbrella towards his lady friend. Guys, getting a little wet won't kill you, if anything it'll get you some extra points for later that night when she sees that you sacrificed a shoulder for her to be nice and dry. A true gentleman is always thinking two steps ahead.
2. Walking on the sidewalkMost men don't know this, but making sure the woman is on the inside of the sidewalk is crucial. Don't ever let her walk closest to the street where cars are driving. Holding her hands will make her feel safe, but make sure you let her know, if there is any danger, she is farthest from it. And if there was any imminent danger from the street, you are there to protect her. Attention to minor details such as this, distinguishes a gentleman from a gentle man.
3. The towelsAgain, the gentleman is always keen on details. When a woman steps out of the shower, you should be there to hand the towels to her. I say towels and not towel because a woman needs two towels. We men just use one big towel but, we don't have those lovely long locks like Rapunzel. A woman needs a towel to dry her body and another one to wrap around her hair. Details gentlemen, details!
4. Offer your jacketThe weather seems a bit more chilly than what the weather said, and your lady friend really seems to be feeling the wind chill. No worries! Because she is with a gentleman, and he is not afraid of the cold. Offer your jacket, but NEVER let her know that you may be cold. Don't show her any signs of the weather getting to you, and don't remind her of the weather. Simply let her know you are okay, and make sure she is warm, that's all you care about.
5. Introduce herWhen attending a social gathering, its your duty as a gentleman to introduce your lady friend to the rest of the crowd. It's not about flaunting her, but more about letting her feel comfortable. Having her stand next to you while you talk to your friends is rude and very disrespectful. She doesn't need to be treated like a trophy that you carry around. Make her feel comfortable, let your friends be her friends. Briefly introduce her to the others, making sure she is physically included in the conversation.
Based on the list, would you say you're a qualified gentleman? What are some other small gestures that define a gentleman?
Comments (44)
I guess this means I'm an a-hole, then.
Pffft, #3 is pushing it. Kinda awkward in my opinion...
My bf is bad at #5, in that case I just introduce myself then my bf feels dumb for not doing it, ha.
@Dare2BDiferentt@xanga - Probably...but from what I can tell you're a funny a-hole :)
I love this! I live in Mississippi where chivalry is probably most prominent due to all that "Southern Hospitality" but still, it's hard to come by these days and it does NOT go unnoticed! I would recommend this 20 times if I could.
@DarkButtercup94@xanga - I agree about #3. Maybe the dude shouldn't be there, holding the towel out like a puppy seeking attention, but maybe he could throw it in the dryer for a couple minutes to make it all toasty instead?
If some dude stood outside my shower with a hot towel I would be instantly revolted. I would consider it both invasion of privacy and uber turn off.
I think #5 is important for both genders. It's just super rude to leaver a person hanging there unintroduced. Civilized human beings introduce the people they are with in that kind of circumstance.
Lady Friend: "Sure is cold, wish I had a nice warm coat like you right about now."
Me: "Yeah, this coat is super warm. Sucks to be you."
Lady Friend: *glares at me*
Me: "Apparently, the first thing to go in cold weather is your sense of humor."
Lady Friend: "5...4...3...2...."
Me: *quickly puts coat on Lady Friend* "...but now I'm cold."
Lady Friend: "Yeah, sucks to be you."
"Don't ever let her walk closest to the street where cars are driving. ... make sure you let her
know, if there is any danger, she is farthest from it. And if there was
any imminent danger from the street, you are there to protect her"
Right. Because when a 30,000 pound semi comes crashing over the curb, your body will be the barrier she's looking for.
haha I love these.
I mean, the towel one is kinda weird but whatever! The rest are sweet.
Even though I'm a woman, number 2 was something my father pointed out to me when I was very young. I think it's one of the nicest things a man can do.
I agree this is all so important and NO boyfriend that I have ever had is aware of these things or does them!!!!
Yay for gentlemen! My boyfriend does almost all of these. I wouldn't ask him to do the towel thing, though. :)
#3 is a nice gesture, but ONLY if I've been w/the guy for a long time and could care less about him standing there w/towels as I get outta the shower...and I only use one towel. **shrugs**
Another is holding the door open. To me, that is something every gentleman should do...I'll hold the door open for others b/c it's polite, but if I'm out on a date or something, a guy holding the door open for me tells alot about him...
:e)
I absolutely hate when I'm not introduced to whoever my boyfriend is talking to. Especially when the conversation is longer than just saying hello and asking how each other are. It's just amazingly rude. It's like saying "I don't care about the person standing next to me enough to tell your their name."
The only time I don't introduce people is when I can't remember someone's name. l0l.
CUTE THOUGH.
haha love these.
My boyfriend does pretty much all of these, except number 3. (he probably would if I allowed him to though -_-)
The shower is a place where I think I can handle on my own haha
Love it! <3 HAHA!
Also....only give compliments if they're genuine. Some guys just pick something interesting (or generic) and roll with it. Don't tell us we look nice if we just got back from the gym. Don't say you like our purse just because it's unique. Not everyone likes zebra print/pink sparkles/camo/anime/whatever. If you're not sincere, she'll KNOW and it will discredit you, making her suspicious of everything you say afterwards.
Oh, and don't say "I'll call you tomorrow" if you know you'll call her in 3 days. Some guys say it "just to be nice," but you're doing her a disservice. Just be honest. Say goodnight without any implication of future contact if you have no intention of talking to her again. That way there are no expectations :)
@nonurbusinessyo@xanga - Thats just mean! lmao.
My Brother is actually the one who told me bout #2. & he always does it.
& lmao bout #3, I thought I was gonna be the only one to notice. haha
lol. i would like to think a gentleman would do these for people of both genders. except for the towel thing. unless that's your thing. o_0
@NikBv@xanga - Yeah, but if you have her on the sidewalk then the aforementioned semi comes flying at you and you shield her ... big points. BIG points.
I once had a guy put this spare pair of shorts he was holding down onto the brick wall we were sitting on so that I "wouldn't get dirty." It surprised and impressed me.
On the other hand, I was stuck out in the rain in heels and this guy next to me did everything in his power to make sure that I wasn't under his umbrella. Jerk.
works for me =)
#2 is definitely real gentleman-like. #3.. I wouldn't let him give me towels unless he were my husband lmao.
Also: Holding the door open & giving genuine compliments every once in a while (not: not every damn minute)
This is definitely the best "things a gentleman should do" post I've seen in a long time. I don't know about actually being there to hand the towels to her... maybe more in the spirit of, if she's showering at your place, make sure to give her two towels so as to be sensitive to her womanly needs. :p Everything else is totally sweet and would definitely get bonus points from me.
Men, take note.
I've done 4 out of the 5 things on this list (haven't given a girl a towel right when she's coming out of the shower). Opening doors for her and giving her small compliments on things like her shoes are pretty good.