Sunday, 17 May 2009
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The Ultimate Definition Of A Real Man
There have been several past attempts posted on Mancouch to describe what actions only a real man can carry out. Not surprisingly, none of them were accurate. There is in fact a surefire test of manhood, namely, fatherhood.
Only a real man can be a good father.
Impregnating a woman, and thus becoming a father, proves that a man is not lacking in his male areas. It also demonstrates beyond any doubt that he can in fact get a woman, and is certainly heterosexual.
But simply becoming a father does not make you a good father, he must also be part of raising his children. He must be there for his children and their mother. He must provide for his family. He must be a good example to his children. This is probably one of the most important things a man can do. Simply by loving his wife, and being kind to her, he can teach his children how a man ought to treat his family. By providing for them he can show them that a man ought to be responsible.
A father who is not a real man will certainly fail in this area. No real man would ever leave his wife, and certainly he would not leave his own children. If he is cruel to his wife, or children, they will learn to fear men. If he does not provide for her and them they will think that men do not contribute, but merely stick around for the free ride. Often times his son will not respect women, and his daughters will probably grow up to be feminist man-haters. This will not how it always happens, but it seems to be the norm based on my own experiences and observations.
A real man must also spend time with his children, teach them skills, and show interest in their activities. He must discipline them when they misbehave, but not abuse them. And he must protect them, and his wife, from any danger that comes their way. If a man runs from danger leaving his children unprotected, he is clearly not a real man. In fact even most boys will stand up for their families in the face of danger. Even rodents protect their nest from predators.
Do you think fatherhood is the ultimate test of a real men? Was your father a real man?
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@John_of_the_bloomdocks@xanga - again, your opinion. just because you don't like what i have to say doesn't mean you have to act like a bitch. really. you are taking this way too seriously. not everyone is going to agree with you, and i don't expect anyone to agree with me. i've never said anything bad towards you, i just stated a response to your post, that's all. take a chill pill.
@ambuer3@xanga - "i don't expect anyone to agree with me."
Good. Because you are wrong.
the same to you...
@abh816@xanga - Reading your post made me want to cry at the thought of the emotional anguish you, your mother and your ex-boyfriend's mother must have gone through, and I'm sure are still going through. But I couldn't help but smile and applaude you for finally saying "no" to being mistreated and standing up for yourself. That is so wonderful and I know that is an incrediblly difficult desicion to make, especially after being with that person for 5 years! I know you'll miss the companionship but stick with your guns. There's nothing you or the other women could ever have done to deserve such treatment. People who abuse and mistreat others are, whether consiously or not, de-humanizing that person, there is no love there. "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres." Whoever you are, you deserve to be loved, and you are, I hope you will know intimately the one who loves you completely, as he does me. And I will love you.
I think gay men can be real men as well.
@cApNhOwDy@xanga - Than I guess you have no idea what manhood is?
@allmyquandaries@xanga - Wow. I'm almost speechless (I'm never actually completely speechless. l0l) . That was definitely the nicest thing anyone on Xanga has ever said to me. Thanks! You made my day =)
Complete bull.
A real man is a universal DESIRE among women, women all over the world,all across, all ages and incomes are looking for the same thing and they describe it in the same way. But what exactly is a REAL MAN?.And why do women use these words and describe him in this way.
What do women not want:Well to begin with I believe they don't want a wussie. Women and especially attractive desirable women who have choices are use to men CHASING after them and KISSING up to them and demonstrating they believe the women is a RARE and VALUABLE prize.
When a guy calls to often, share his feelings to soon or to much or trys to buy a women's attention and affection with gift,dinners and favours and generally puts his OWN LIFE, NEEDS and SELF RESPECT aside for a women his is a wussie.
THIS IS THE OPPOSITE OF A REAL MAN.
A REAL MAN:A real man has his OWN LIFE together, he has his ACT together, sure he'd like to find a beautiful, intelligent women to spend time with but he DOESN'T NEED IT.
And when he meets and interacts with attractive women he demonstrates in every little way that he is COMFORTABLE with himself and he is COMFORTABLE with women.
Hes holds and carries himself as if he OWNS THE ENTIRE CITY HE LIVES IN.
When he makes eye contact with a women, he doesn't look away instantly out of nervous self conciousness. Instead he keeps looking as to say " I see something that might interest me, let me take a moment to consider it".
He is COOL and CALM at all times.
His movements are just a little SLOWER than those of other men.
Everything about him suggests he doesn't need to hurry because things will turn out the way he WANTS in the end anyway.
A real man communicates with attractive women that CONFUSES and EXCITES them at the same time. Because he is SO UN SELF CONSCIOUS and hes not looking for a women's approval, he says things that are totally unexpected.
A real man isn't afraid to say what's own HIS MIND or make FUN OF A WOMEN JUST BECAUSE HE FEELS LIKE IT.
Its obvious hes being who he is and this easy grace and lack of insecurities about himself are magnetic.
Hes respectful yet BRUTALLY honest.
Hes not poligetic or overally eager to say sorry, especially because he knows how to handle his life in such a way he doesn't create problems by being immature,late,dishonest or otherwise flakey.
Hes spontaneous, but hes responsible, he isn't afraid to speak his mind or have an opinion.
HE DOESN'T LIVE HIS LIFE TO PLEASE ANYONE. PARENTS, FRIENDS AND ESPECIALLY WOMEN.
He NEVER ACTS OR COMMUNICATES HE IS A VICTIM IN ANYWAY.
A REAL MAN IS WHAT EVERY WOMEN WANTS BUT HE IS SO RARE THAT MANY WOMEN DOUBT THEY'LL EVER FIND HIM.
INCASE YOUR WONDERING, MY GENDER IS MALE.
A real man is a man who doesn't get his rocks off on blood letting, war, conquering, treating women like floor mats or like they are completely inferior. In my years here on this earth I personally have only met one of these. A real man is confident in who he is and isn't afraid of every little issue that arises. I don't mean a man who feels he has to pick a fight to prove he has balls either. As far as I know every man has balls, you find one set, trust me another man has a set too. A real man doesn't whine over stupid crap and has the ability to stand up for what is good, not what he THINKS is right or good, but what the general population would think of as good or right,and I don't mean by playing the sheeple here, I mean the generalization of what is good. And trust me, how much beer or alcohol you can consume while watching football or participating in sports does not measure your manhood. A man who can cook a mean lasagna and not care what other males think, this proves he is superior to them because he isn't a sheeple. If you have to follow what everyone else thinks you should do then you aren't a man.
How about one who isn't vindictive like a girl? Or one who doesn't have "women" issues.