Sunday, 17 May 2009
There have been several past attempts posted on Mancouch to describe what actions only a real man can carry out. Not surprisingly, none of them were accurate. There is in fact a surefire test of manhood, namely, fatherhood.
Only a real man can be a good father.
Impregnating a woman, and thus becoming a father, proves that a man is not lacking in his male areas. It also demonstrates beyond any doubt that he can in fact get a woman, and is certainly heterosexual.
But simply becoming a father does not make you a good father, he must also be part of raising his children. He must be there for his children and their mother. He must provide for his family. He must be a good example to his children. This is probably one of the most important things a man can do. Simply by loving his wife, and being kind to her, he can teach his children how a man ought to treat his family. By providing for them he can show them that a man ought to be responsible.
A father who is not a real man will certainly fail in this area. No real man would ever leave his wife, and certainly he would not leave his own children. If he is cruel to his wife, or children, they will learn to fear men. If he does not provide for her and them they will think that men do not contribute, but merely stick around for the free ride. Often times his son will not respect women, and his daughters will probably grow up to be feminist man-haters. This will not how it always happens, but it seems to be the norm based on my own experiences and observations.
A real man must also spend time with his children, teach them skills, and show interest in their activities. He must discipline them when they misbehave, but not abuse them. And he must protect them, and his wife, from any danger that comes their way. If a man runs from danger leaving his children unprotected, he is clearly not a real man. In fact even most boys will stand up for their families in the face of danger. Even rodents protect their nest from predators.
Do you think fatherhood is the ultimate test of a real men? Was your father a real man?