If there is one thing girls don't like, it's other girls. If there is a second thing they don't like, it's me. Okay, so there are a lot of things girls don't like, same with guys, but I personally get a huge kick out of the intense animosity girls can feel towards other girls; it's totally unlike male-to-male hatred.
[Photo: The intensity of female-to-female animosity visible at even a young age.]
I was reminded of this last week when I was out for the evening in Boston. My entourage was all-male with the exception of the wife of one of my friends so we went out in search of some female companionship.
After largely failed dance attempts at a normally quite enjoyable bar, our next stop was my gold standard for fun: a house party. That has just always been my scene, whether I know one person there or one-hundred, it will almost always trump any bar.
As the evening wears on I find myself chatting with one girl in particular who I am amused by because of her style of flirtation. I've got no genuine interest, but the party is pretty lame and we (read: I) can always use a little work on my game. When she steps out to go to the bathroom or to get another drink, my friend's wife (henceforth referred to as FW) comes up to me to say,
"If you hook up with that girl, I will never forgive you." I chuckled at this to which she simply responded with greater fervor: "I hate that girl, what a stupid f#cking c*nt." Now I am known to have a bit of a sailor's mouth, but let me tell you, if there is a word I cringe when hearing, it is the "c" word. I don't know how we arrive at these ideas of the ultimate in degrading and hateful vocabulary, but for me, that is pretty much
the word.
So later, as we were all leaving, this girl comes around again with a last ditch effort to gauge my interest and FW reaffirms her earlier statement. Of course, like I said, I had no intention of even trying to hook up with this girl, but sometimes our wills are weak and we are susceptible to certain feminine wiles we know we should resist
for the good of our selves and that's when you need your homegirls to have your back.
Have your female friends ever helped protect you from the dregs of vulturous female society? Do women hate each other more than men?
Comments (49)
Yes, women hate each other more than men. lol. Sometimes you just cannot help but to dislike someone and the dislike becomes stronger when someone your close with likes that person, (aka. you talking to that chick and the FW getting more angry). One more thing, I do agree I do not like the c* word either.
yeah i hate a lot of women. i think it started at an early age. i really only had my grandmother, and a lot of older women as feminine influences. i never got used to dealing with girls my own age, and when i did they were always very similar to me. i guess part of it is jealousy, also emotions, and just simply that some people don't get along
girls are (okay, not all, but I include myself in this category) vindictive and jealous creatures, but we are the best friends you could ask for. If you have a powerful woman in your corner, you're golden. We will watch your back and can catch all those subtle hints that may fly under the radar.
Reminds me of this.
I've saved so many of my guy friends from crazy bitches. I can just tell who is going to end up being insane, and who won't. One time my friend didn't believe me, and he dated the girl anyway. They dated for a month, and then he broke up with her because she wouldn't quit calling or leaving him comments on myspace. After he dumped her she would leave him voicemails at 3am on Wednesday mornings talking about how she was going to kill herself if he didn't go out with her again. He definitely listened to me from there on out, and most of my other friends did, too. l0l.
I have to admit, I usually don't like my guy friends dating girls that are really pretty. I know it sounds terrible, but it's true. I don't want any girls in my "group" that are really pretty, except the girls that are in my group because they're good people... not just because one of my friends thought they were hot. l0l. It's not a jealousy thing, I just hate hanging out with people that suck. And most of the time guys only date really hot girls because they're really hot, and don't care if their personality is shit.
Depends on who you're talking about. But women are extremely catty. Mean Girls is probably just a trailer of what actually happens. Hahaha.
why does your friend's wife care if you hook up unless she secretly has a crush on you*gasp* or her husband was once involved with her or made a casual remark that he thought she was hot? or it could be unrelated. is that c*unt prettier than your FW??
I only react with bitter anger if I have feelings for the guy, such as when I see my old crush with another girl and although I've never met her or talked to her, I'll still get jealous even if I have a boyfriend.
@Doubtroub469@xanga - agreed! also, i hate that word...agh so degrading, especially for women to say it...
"Now I am known to have a bit of a sailor's mouth, but let me tell you,
if there is a word I cringe when hearing, it is the "c" word."
DUDE, me tooo! I freaking hate it too, it just sounds...wrong.
I know I genuinely care about my guy friend's when I discourage them to go out with someone I know to be not good for them. But women generally does seem to hate each other more than guys do...it's weird but at the same time, it makes sense.
I hate most girls... almost as much as I hate the c word
I find other girls usually great except for the snobs and bitches (of course). I love girl companionship as well as guy companionship :) I like girl friendships b/c we can talk about all sorts of stuff like guys, clothes, etc. But I like guy friendships b/c I can tease them or be sarcastic or engage in debates, etc and they won't be wimpy about it if that makes sense.
The only women I get a long with are the ones who aren't vindictive, vengeful, and full of jealousy..and by the looks of it, those women are very very few. I think life is much less complicated and full of drama if you just keep friendships with women few and simple. I would rather have a close guy friend than a close girl friend.
I hate females, from where I'm standing, there's no loving all the nagging and complaining and everything else that comes with the female race.
I don't know how men do it.
Or lesbians.
umm strange as it sounds women can be best friends and hate each others guts... lol and we still love em lol well actualy they make us love em..not our choice...walks of muttering....cant live with em ....want to live without em.......wont let us............
Well... it depends. When I was home with my (now ex) bf over Spring Break, this girl told him to ditch me (who was home with him... over spring break... as in I flew home with him) and that she was cuter. And then guys wonder why girls would dislike other girls... I'm a nice person, but COME ON... The first thought that popped into my head was "you're FAT, and clearly a bitch" Normally I'm a nice person... but seriously... My friends, on the other hand, aren't like that... They would NEVER think to tell a random guy they just met to ditch their girlfriend for them. So, that would be why some girls just completely hate on other girls... That was almost a month ago, and I'm still miffed about it...
Kramer said it best when Elaine asked why women were always rude to her;
Kramer: Because, you're a man's woman; you hate other women and they hate you.
My Mom, an ultra feminist in her early 70's is still an extremely attracfive woman, and I'll never forget her saying to me in the 1970's when she was going to disco's and dating after she and my Dad had separated, that 'women are their own worst enemies; they are jealous and spiteful and catty and it does them no good at all.'
Unless women are friends with one another, they seem to see all other women as potential threats, and generally hate each other on sight.
Generally.
'I hate females, from where I'm standing,
there's no loving all the nagging and complaining and everything else
that comes with the female race.
I don't know how men do it.
Or lesbians.'
Ummm.....your picture is why we do it.
You're freaking gorgeous!
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BTW; what's up with the c word thing? Men are called all kinds of penile inspired expletives; cocksuckers, dicks, pricks and that seems perfectly ok with women, but call a c*** a c*** and suddenly you cross the line?
What's up with that double standard?
I thought we'd come a long way baby.
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This is why I have mostly guy friends...
I didn't realize so many girls hated eachother. I don't really hate girls.
I guess I have more male friends than female, just because they're so much more laid back and easier to talk to and they can keep secrets. But I can't think of a single female I hate.
i dislike most girls because they're so mean to one another. i'm a girl, and most of my friends are boys (save for a very small circle of girls).
All girls are pretentious whores. All women are envious sluts. That's all you need to know.
Interesting thread here -- I personally think these angry women create straw-man arguments for not liking one another. There's some sort of invisible barrier (we think we're all "different", but we act just the same) that is constructed and many women go into female-female relationships expecting that barrier to fall down. It all comes down to self-love and arrogance.
What exactly do you want your female friends to do, give you advice?