I was in high school about to go to college and I was dating the hottest girl in school. Naturally these things don’t work out like they do on TV, but the break up effed it up for me with other women.
Ever since then I can’t picture myself with another woman that wasn’t as good looking as her.
When I try, mind just screams, “hell no, she’s uglier than her." That one hot girl raised my expectations so high, anyone that looked “uglier” than her, I didn’t pay attention to or just threw them in the friend category.
It’s a cycle that I haven’t been able to get past and one that many guys have a hard time dealing with.
But wait, this doesn’t just affect guys, this effs up the lives of women too. How, you ask? Well let me explain.
One of the top reasons, if not the #1 reason, why guys leave one girl for another is because the latter girl looks hotter, better, more beautiful or whatever word you want to use describing a girl that looks significantly better than the girl being left behind.
So, if you’re a woman that doesn’t fall into the hot category, tough luck. You’re probably going to lose out to the hot girl.
Most women will blame the guy for this problem, saying he can’t appreciate what he has. While that may be true, there is no way in hell a guy is going to stay with a less hot girl if he can help it, especially if they’re both similar people in personality and mannerism.
Do you expect someone to look a certain way before dating them?
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Yes, but ultimately it doesn't matter. If he's purty and dumb as a stump, he's a goner... ;)
I check out hot guys.
Date the nice guys.
I get attracted to someone once we've started really getting to know each other. So if I'm dating someone who is average, I'd probably think they're the hottest person I know.
Its about equally important.
I was pushed to the point of breaking up with my boyfriend, and he went out and dated a very heavy girl, and she was an effing basket case (totally crazy). 3 months later we got back together. I feel actually really bad, because obviously there was a reason he wanted to date her and pushed me away to do so.
So this post, not always the case. Either way, being pushed away or being left for another girl, whatever the reason, sucks.
....umm. wow. -I guess I could be more understanding if you emphasized something more than just beauty. -I was expecting this post to be similar to some ex-wife story or something.
no, that is so shallow.
I mean why date someone JUST because he looks like a flipping greek god or whatever? No... I'm sorry. Looks are great for a little while (I mean I do admit I notice nice looking guys and sometimes just STARE ahaha) but I want someone who gets me and just accepts me for how I am. Yes, I do have to be attracted to him... but that doesn't mean that he has to be the most good looking guy out there.
and also... this post was something I did not want to read because it makes me feel like a guy is looking for the most perfect looking girl or something... sorry not EVERY girl is beautiful... that's just the way it is... and it makes me sad that a lot of guys just go for looks... it's so disapointing.
that is dumb. not every person is like that.
i think doing what your doing is shallow and stupid.
my bf dated me when i didnt wear makeup and didnt try to make myself look good [i was gross back than]
and he was loyal 100%. never did anything with anyone. he's one of the nice guys though.
Shallow? Beauty. That's natural selection. We can't all be like Ajolina Jolie. Unfortunately, being quiet and average in looks makes me ultra approachable for some reason. I don't mind being ditched for a hotter girl. I just sigh. Life.
You are kind of an asshole.
Dear god, like no tomorrow. The part that sucks the most is that i'm not only looking for a gorgeous girl, but a smart one as well. My ex girlfriend set the bar very, VERY high for me, and it sorta sucks, but i'm definitely not getting caught with an ugly and/or dumb girl.
To be perfectly honest, I didn't read a word of this post. Kate Beckinsale is like kryptonite for me.
Who cares about the personality of a person whether they're a bitch or an asshole... as long as they're pretty.
Things have become so clear to me now.
either you are shallow or you are shallow
I love Kate Beckinsale.
@magnugget@xanga - Hahahah yep, just what I was thinking.
I have the vague suspicion that you're actually not attractive at all.
Now THIS is a real Mancouch entry, just as how Mancouch was intended to be. I mean, god, where has the entertainment been all this time?!
oh is that why all my exes are still single? it all makes sense now...
=P
"there is no way in hell a guy is going to stay with a less hot girl if he can help it, especially if they’re both similar people in personality and mannerism"
Wow.
Are you REALLY using such a bad generalization to try and justify your own shallowness?
That's some shallow shit.
You can compare.
But wtf?
If you're gonna be in a relationship with someone,
like them for them. As long as they're attractive to YOU.
it has nothing to do with..."SHE'S/HE'S BETTER THAN ME"
just show some insecurities.
My first boyfriend of 3 years was the hottest guy i've ever seen and dated. On top of that, he was rich, confident, sweet and manly, just everything a girl could ask for, a prince charming.
After that I havent met anybody that could be his match physically. then out of the blue, I got into a relationship with a new guy, he's much less attractive but he treated me with utmost respect. But I took everything for granted and treated him badly, only to realize that he's one of the most wonderful men i've ever met after the breakup. You see, I lost my chance because I was constantly comparing him to the first boy.
Look isn't everything, try to look deeper into that person and soon you will learn, beauty is in the eyes of the beholder.
good luck to you
Similar personality/mannerisms, but new girl is hotter.
hmm... i can see how that would be 'trading up' from a very shallow perspective.
But on a deeper level well thats just bs. If you have been with someone for a long (or even short in some cases) time, and have fallen in love, get along great, rah rah rah, then a similar girl comes along whos slightly interested (or not even) but looks like Scarlett Johansson...your just gonna drop the whole relationship you've built???
That's some fucked up shit. You poor, poor, pathetic little man.
I hate to read that, but truth is most men are shallow and they will leave or cheat on their girlfriends for a better looking girl.
She probably broke up with you because the guy she dated earlier was really good looking- and you can't beat that. J/K!
@doLc3@xanga - I'm just like that too!
I'm already in love with a particular person so he's probably the hottest creature living in my head due to his strong personality which made it a plus. And my galfriends might argue that my past ex is the 'male model' bf I ever had. Eventhough I never thought about it until they mentioned it. But I'm over with all of my exes, so maybe that's why I don't have a hard time loving my current guy. And again, his personality was stronger compared to the past guys I dated.
Thanks for making us bigger not really that great looking people feel good. (yes, that was said sarcastically)