Thursday, 19 February 2009
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Should a Man Hit A Women Back If She is Abusing Him?
We received this message from a Mancouch reader:
"What am I supposed to do if I'm being physically abused by a women? I don't want to hit her back and most guys don't talk about this stuff, so I don't really want to report it either."
Should a guy hit a women back if she is physically abusing him?
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Break up and press charges. Although no court will is likely to side with a man over a woman unless she actually used a deadly weapon.
Still, nobody should stay in any abusive relationship. At least leave.
But then, why not hit her back? If she's his equal and women aren't the weaker sex sex isn't it fair for him to swing back?After all there's nothing wrong with self defense.
dick slap her in the face. hard. then bust your nut all in her nose.
Go to the police and press charges. Hopefully if the case is presented correctly then assault charges will given to her. It sucks that abuse pegs only men as doing it because a small number of women are abusive towards their boyfriends/husbands and there is such a shame of them reporting it. No one has a right to hit and verbally harass anyone no matter what their gender! If you don't go to the police then at least leave the relationship. No one deserves to be hurt by a loved one that.
Break up. Nobody should be in an abusive relationship. Period. If you hit back, I'd say there's a 90% chance SHE will press charges. And she will likely win. Just get out. There's no other way around it. Alternatively, if you were determined to press charges, nothing short of a hidden camera video taping an attack or strong physical signs of abuse would be enough proof (fractured bones, heavy brusing, deep scratch marks).
No, because suddenly she will become the abused one, take you to court, and win. It never works in favor of the man. Just leave her. No one abusive is worth staying with, whether male or female.
Yeah, it's called "Leave-a-bitch" Do it.
@jupiter312@xanga - Agreeeeeed.
i aint gonna allow no woman to whoop up on me i mean if some woman tries to hit me im gonna hit her back otherwise yer a giant pussy
I agree with the first guy who responded.
you can hit her back but you gotta becareful not to leave any marks. the crazy bitch might report your ass.
No. I don't think a guy should hit a girl. For a couple reasons.
1) I just think it's wrong for men to hit women.
2) Men are often stronger than they think-They don't know their own strength.
3) Chances are you'll get in a lot of trouble!
I know [you] really don't want to report it, but that's really what you should do. A lot of times women who are abusive are also manipulative and if you try anything to "stop" her [ie. hitting back, grabbing her, ect] she could report you, or fight back just enough to get bruises, ect.
So if you're in a relationship, get out of it, and report her!-It could be someone else's safety. =]
Hope that helps a little. Good luck on finding your answers =]
Report her or leave, don't hit her back. Why would you stay in an abusive relationship? I would say violence is only acceptable if you're in danger (e.g. she's trying to stab you with a knife), and then only as self-defense. Get out of there ASAP!
born with 30% more muscle mass... upper body strength far superior ... dont ya think we can figure out far more ways to stop her than hitting? lol once picked up a pissed off girlfriend and simply walked into a cold shower... only took bout ten min to umm cool her down. never turn yer back on her and if all else fails... pick her up and set her in yer lap and simply hold her for the 3 or so hours it takes...trust me its worth the clawing and biting ya have to put up with...
If a woman is physically abusing or assaulting a man, the man has every right (in self defense) to strike back. Woman complain about having equal rights for everything. Assault should be no exception. If a woman tries to injure a man with force, a man has every right to protect his life. No special treatment.
I'm not saying that I would hit a girl every chance I get. I never had the case of a girl trying to assault me so I don't know how I respond to that situation. But I know that if she is trying to intentionally hurt me or injure me, she better be prepared because my response might be spontaneous and could end up hurting her.
verbal abuse. it doesn't leave bruises. LOL
im only kidding
@jupiter312@xanga - I agree.
only if he's about to die, then he has to defend himself.
Uhm, do you really have to? I believe there's beauty in walking away. But if you feel the need to hit back, then I guess that's your call.
I would also advise you to try not to be the person you hate. If you hate people who hit their significant others, then why hit back? I think it will only make you the person you hate.
Still, whatever I say, I will go back to:
"But if you feel the need to hit back, then I guess that's your call."
We, (the respondents of this post), can say the best pieces of advice, the most inspiring of all quotes, but it will always go back to how you felt when you were hit. Did you feel like you needed to hit back because otherwise you might die? Or did you feel like you needed to hit back coz if you didn't, you just can't go on with your life happy coz you didn't fight for your right of not getting hit?
For the record, I was physically abused by my boyfriend (now ex, of course). Did I hit back when he hit me? No. Did I feel like I was gonna die at the moment of the abuse? Fuck yes. But I chose not to be the person that I hate. But that's just me.
i agree with everyone that said leave her. i've never understood why anyone would stick around if they're being abused (male or female).
one time a girl hit me (we weren't dating she's just a bitch) and i gave her the chance to walk away. she hit me again and i was tempted to hit back but i just told her to walk away. i said that if she hit me one more time she was gonna find out what it felt like to get knocked the fuck out, and flinched at her. she jumped and lost all nerve and ran off crying. if you make her think you're gonna knock her the hell out she'll quit.
Keep your PIMP hand strong. Backhand across the eyes.
No, I don't think a guy should hit a girl back.
Stop her. Hold her by the arms, push her away or pin her down if you have to.
Karate Chop her in the neck.
Hit her back. As a woman, I'd expect it.
Also - don't always assume the court will side with the woman. My friend's mother was chased out of the house by her step-dad, who was trying to beat her. She grabbed a branch, threw it at him, and called the police. She was taken to jail for assault. Yeah, f-ed up legal system, but at the same time, whoever throws the first punch is technically the one who is, or is supposed to be, arrested.
Phone books don't leave bruises.