Friday, 30 January 2009

• Diplomacy With a Drama Queen

  
   
  

  
  There are always those girls who are hilarious and fun to be around. Yet they seem to get angry over the smallest things, and are so often hating someone that you wonder whether it's necessary for their happiness.
  
  Well, that's an exaggeration, but still, it's stressful and frustrating to have to be constantly on the alert whenever you're around an easily angered person. How do I know?
  
  Because: a) I, myself, get angry very easily, often towards people who aren't really responsible for what's bothering me.
  
  And b) because I know girls like me who get angry/upset often, and I know the feeling of guilt over something that isn't my fault, and the frustration when they can't seem to grow up.
  
  So, how should you deal with people like that?
  
  1) Let them know you're willing to talk
  
  Especially if you're responsible for the current situation. Man (or woman) up and recognize that you screwed up.
  
  You don't have to grovel or anything, just send an e-mail, a phone call, or tap her shoulder and ask if she wants to talk. However, if she gives you a glare, snaps at you or ignores you (which she probably will) and it happens two or three times...
  
  2) Ignore her
  
  Whatever. Save yourself the offense of the stone glare and just ignore her right back. Don't be snotty or angry about it, just don't acknowledge her grudge against you. Sometimes people just want you to know they're angry at you... it doesn't really serve a purpose, I know, but it's just impulse, reasonable or not.
  
  3) Wait for her to give in
  
  This could take a really long time, depending on what's going on. Sometimes the anger just burns out, and she doesn't want to admit she was wrong. It's kind of embarrassing, and she probably thinks there's no right way to just blurt out, "I can't believe you did that," or "Sorry I got mad at you."
  
  4) Explain your side or accept her apology
  
  Voila!
  
  Of course, this is assuming that your person is willing to admit she was wrong. If she isn't... well, I haven't had to deal with that in a while. But, I would ask myself whether that person's friendship is worth all the stress and unneeded guilt she puts you through, because clearly she's putting her pride above her friendship with you.
  
  Good luck, friends and confused boyfriends. :]
  
  How do you deal with a drama queen?  Do you easily give in or continue to battle?
  
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