I’ve had a few conversations with people recently on where to meet someone for a dating type of relationship. This is something that has crossed my mind as well. When my divorce is final I’ll be divorced at 28 with a 3-year-old daughter. The personal ad just writes itself!
I haven't dated since college so where do you meet someone if you’re not in school? For me, it seems even more difficult since I work from home and most of the people I come in contact with are women.
After thinking about it, I’ve still not come up with good places to meet someone, other than church functions, coffee shops, and book stores. And we all know that
Xanga is like an online dating site in disguise. However, I did think of a few places to
not meet someone.
Valentine’s Day is coming up. You may be looking for a date, but please do not try to find a date in these places!
At a gas station: Have some class, man! This actually happened to me... I was standing there pumping my gas (apparently that makes me irresistible), and a guy slows next to me in his work van and asked for my phone number! Now that’s
hot!
He was kind of cute so maybe if he would’ve taken the effort to get
out of his vehicle he might have had a small chance. But who wants to be hit on while smelling like gasoline?! It’s not like I was wearing a bikini and heels while pumping gas! Sheesh.
At a funeral: This is so inappropriate, especially if it’s the widow/widower! Yes, they’re grieving. Yes, they’re vulnerable. But is that really what you want?! Do you really want a sappy mess to clean up after?
At a wedding: I know, I know... this happens, and I’m sure some of you will disagree with me on this one, but this just screams desperation. I get it, you’re seeing someone else get married, and it makes you want a special someone. Chances are, though, that the someone you meet at a wedding will be a very temporary thing. A quick fix, if you will. So go ahead and make a fool of yourself dancing because you shouldn’t be there to impress anyone anyway!
The drive-thru: The “relationship” would probably be over before you get a “
would you like fries with that shake?” They also may charge you.
Ahem, that’ll be $5.37, please pull forward...The gym: Sweat, spandex, heavy breathing... wait, hmm... Most people go to the gym to get fit,
not to get dates. I don’t want to try to rattle off my number for you while running on the treadmill. Take your sweaty armpits somewhere else, please.
In the locker room/restroom: Uhm, awkward... especially if you’re hitting on someone who is 100 % straight! Don’t stare at someone’s goods and attempt to get a date. It lacks class.
In court: This is a bad idea all around. If you’re there for a dissolution of marriage hearing, don’t wink at someone else in the courtroom. If you’re being convicted of a crime, also, bad idea. And please, oh please, don’t make a pass at the Commissioner! He/She can throw you in jail for the night!
During church: This one has also happened. Just hanging out, singing along, and he slides right up next to me and starts talking to me.
Shush! He then asks me if he could take me out for coffee or something sometime.
No! If he had asked after the service or during a function, then maybe... but
during the service? This is just rude to the max and kinda makes me think the only reason he is there is to pick up a date.
Outside a porta-potty: This would usually take place at a concert, fair, or some other outdoor event. It’s bad enough to hit on someone while
in line for the potty. I mean, what do you say? So... (ahem) what are you here for?
But it’s a definite no-no if you’re just coming
out of the porta-potty. You can't even wash your hands in those! And then you're going to come out and introduce yourself to someone?! What?! Just don’t do it!!!
A family reunion (thanks, Josh): It's a family reunion! You're probably, in some way, related to them all. So unless you're going to someone else's reunion, this is a horrible idea. I don't care if she's your sixth cousin, three times removed... It's still pretty yucky.
These are things to look out for if you’re wanting something more than just a fling-of-the-week. Best of luck to ya!
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Comments (46)
is there anywhere you're not, cas?
lol..
i once dated a guy i met form a wake...haha its his cousin's wakehaha
and church is the famous place to get to know someone for teens in malaysia
LOL, this is so great and oh so true
hilarious
i once had a guy try to ask me out during a parent- teacher conference. i was a student teacher at the time and it was really awkward with the cooperating teacher there. 
Haha! I think the worse one I've had is while I was working...the guy was sooooo old and he kept saying this like, "I might be old, but I can show you a good time," and, "Just cause I don't have teeth [EW!!] doesn't mean I can't leave a mark." **pukes** It was soo bad. I've had others at work, too. **rolls eyes**
This is way funny!
you forgot the bar.
bar sluts. duh.
I don't think I've gotten anything out of the ordinary. The place I got hit on the most was the beach. It's like "hey we're half naked, let's get together."
hahaha
I met my BF online. Been together 4 years so far, love him to death. Would never have had it any other way. Before him I dated someone I met offline as well. Relationship did not last because of distance, but we still remain good friends and keep in touch.
Meeting people online is not as bad as some think, in some cases, it is better than meeting someone face to face the first time you contact them.
I would recommend you join your local chapter of Parents Without Partners. I did when I was single divorced mom. Those are a bunch of people in the same boat as you are that have all sorts of events together: dances, camp outs, hikes, potlucks, cruises, parties, etc. These are the ultimate safe dates because everyone understands about your children and you're in a friendly group situation where you can just be comfortable with those who interest you and walk easily away from those who don't. Personally, I went to all of the events but almost never dated anyone from the group. It wasn't because I didn't meet any nice people, but rather because I was burned out on marriage and didn't want to get into a tight enough relationship with anyone that might lead to that and you'd be surprised how many guys will propose on a first date. First and last date when it was me. Still, it's a fun club to belong to and includes lots of kid-friendly outings as well.
I've actually been hit on at a family reunion before. It was a truly horrible experience.
Uh.. I'm gunna admit something here.... I hit on 2nd cousin at a family reunion.... to be fair, I'm Swedish and we have a big family... and he was pretty...... Anyway, it was a horrific experience. Good tips here guys!
Don't fish the lady at a fish market.
Wait a minute. This mancouch, not datingish isn't it??
The DMV! Yup, believe it or not....it happened when I was waiting to get my card printed... i was thinking to myself, "hurry up, hurry up....could it take any longer?" while some weird guy was trying to talk to me and ask for my number. And when i got it, i was ready to run (literally) straight towards the exit... he asked, "do you have a phone?" (or something like that.) i told him, "uhh... no .... sorry". HAHA. :P
I won't forget too, it was on my birthday last year.
And at work. I work at a store...and it's open to the public, i get hit on by weird guys...and there's been times that I've actually had to hide from them to avoid them! I mean it would be ok...if the guy wasn't that weird...but what normal guy actually asks a girl out at a grocery store? but i guess it isn't too bad as the dmv. haha! :P
haha this is funny lol
Hm. I think the strangest place was in the bathroom hut in West Africa. I was out for the weekend on an island and the only place to pee in private was this random grass hut (no roof). So while I was *ahem*... A guy leaned over the wall and said, "How are you sister? Care to get a meal with me?"
Seriously?
A waiter asked me for my number while I was having dinner with my mother. Awkward!
@OhItzJustMe@xanga - I agree, I also have a fiance who I've been together with for 4 years and I met him online.
I think you can get hit on any where and I don't think it's weird. People hit on me in the randomest places; it's not about the place it's about the approach, I think.
You mean you DON'T wear a bikini and stilettos to the gas station?
Nice blog and thanks for the laugh. ^_~
My sister's graduation at UCLA some several years back. I was wearing a UCLA basketball collared shirt that my sister bought me and had gel in my hair to hold it in place. Some random girls walked by and said "you're hot!" Uh... I was a freshman in high school still at that point so I didn't know what to think. Looking back at it, that's not where I would want to get attention from girls, especially because I live a few hours drive south of there.
Tijuana... I'm sorry, but meeting girls in a club that is on the other side of the border is generally not a good idea... At least in my opinion...
locker room? seriously? hahaha i'd be scared out of my mind. it's one thing to undress in a room full of males; it's another if they are checking out ... yea.
how about online?
she's just plain bored and most probably lead an empty life. Ouch.
WalMart and not in the grocery aisle. I was followed for ten minutes being asked if I needed an umbrella for when I left.
Gross.
Atleast talk about something that needs attention.
I once met a guy at the gym. It was the worst mistake. He always wanted to go to the gym at the same time, and then when it was time to leave he always wanted to hug goodbye. First, guys smell after working out and so did I. I didn't want anyone that close to me, and to be completely honest I didn't want to be close to him at that time either!