...and why Black girls love Mexican guys, and Mexican girls love Irish guys, and Irish girls love German guys, and German girls love Italian guys, and Italian girls love French guys, and French girls love British guys, and British girls love Texan guys, and Texan girls love Puerto Rican guys...
*gag*
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hey don't, so get over yourselves.
Any of these statements are attempts to quantify or explain "interracial" dating. As though interracial dating was an anomaly that needed to be explained away. Or as though it is an insult--as though every time a pale-skinned girl enters a relationship with a dark-skinned man, she is somehow turning her back on every pale-skinned male in the world.
It's all so ridiculous. When two people enter into a relationship, they're just that: two people. It's not as though each somehow embodies the entirety of their ethnicity. Perhaps statistically there are more White-male/Asian-female "interracial" couplings than there are Black-male/Asian-female or Latino-male/Asian-female couplings, but so what? What do statistics have to do with anything?
Sure, there are the legends. Supposedly all African-American men are well-endowed, and supposedly all Latino men are passionate lovers, and supposedly all "white" men are rich. But when you enter a relationship with someone, are you entering into a relationship with an ethnic legend or with an individual person?
I am an advocate for
dealing with people on individual terms, not lumping them together in categories that they may or may not fit. It's the same with individual couples.
Just because you know two or three girls of your ethnicity who are dating someone of a different ethnicity doesn't mean it's some sort of pandemic and you're doomed to eternal singleness.
That makes about as much sense as the straight men that complain about lesbians because they say "there are no women left for me to date now," which makes no sense at all.
So leave inter-ethnic dating alone and stop trying to categorize it.
Now excuse me, I have to go passionately kiss my Scottish/Irish/German/Spanish fiancee.
Would you date out of your ethnicity or race? If so, why are so many others afraid of interracial dating?
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"When two people enter into a relationship, they're just that: two people."
I agree. In fact I am dating out of my race. My boyfriend is Mexican. I am Filipino.
I am so tired of this topic. It was dead after I finished writing my post about it.
But you're 100% right.
I have yet to date someone within my race. The only time I have ever associated with someone within my race was my first kiss and then I met up with him later on in life and we had a brief 2 week summer fling... other than that, I haven't stayed within race haha
Haha, what a witty post!
mancouch?! blech.
What we need to be figuring out is how Seal scored Heidi Klum.
Yes am I dating someone outside of my ethnicity... And I'm not sure (in response to your second question), I think that each person who doesn't support interracial dating or doesn't want to date outside of their ethnicity has their own [personal] reasons.
"But when you enter a relationship with someone, are you entering into a relationship with an ethnic legend or with an individual person?" That changed everything. I agree there.
And yes, I interracial date, because life is far too short to be making a short box for that perfect or that near good person. Just grab who is good for you, and hope for the best. Put those stereotypes to the wayside, and love somebody, dadgummit!
"When two people enter into a relationship, they're just that: two people."
Agreed.
And by love, I mean honestly.
P.S.: For those trying to hold a stereotype against somebody, there are stupid people of every race. There is nothing to can really do about that. Just go for the ones that you like best, and be happy.
i'm asian/white dating a white guy or irish/polish. ive also dated a hawian/japanese, filipino, mexican, black..etc.
@theblackspiderman@xanga - Don't sleep. Seal probably knows how to make a woman feel like a woman. I tip my hat to him.
great post. i agree with you totally....
yes i am dating a "pale-skinned" man lol.
I fully agree. When I have time, I will say more about this.
Would you date out of your ethnicity or race?
If I was attracted to the person.
If so, why are so many others afraid of interracial dating?
I don't know.
i date outside my race all the time
the times, they are a-changin...
As long as our personalities click, the color of her skin doesnt matter.
"When two people enter into a relationship, they're just that: two people." i like how you said that.
i am Cambodian and my bf is Filipino.. both Asians but somewhat different backgrounds.
GREAT POST!
And yes, I've dated outside of my race. I'm Mexican and my last girlfriend was Irish/French. Nothing wrong with that.
I would date outside my date my ethnicity or race.
I completely agree.
I'm Chinese - my boyfriend is Mexican/Italian. This happens to be the second non-Chinese guy I'm dating, so instead of acknowledging my boyfriend for who he is, people think of me as "the Chinese girl who will only date ethnically different people".
Why do people think like that? It's not true.
The two boyfriends I've had just HAPPEN to be white. So what? I go out with someone because I like them for who they are, and not because I'm playing some race game where I have to choose someone different from my ethnicity.
rock on! :D great post! i haven't really tried dating in general but i think i'd be okay with the interracial thing. =D
Well said.
Finally someone said it!
We're all Homo Sapiens...what difference does it make if our coat colors are different? So what if butterflies all have different colored wings? Doesn't it make the world more beautiful? I think so. So people having different origins is awesome.Â
Excuse my provincial thinking, but if you love someone enough, would something as trivial as race/nationality really matter?Â
i think people are afraid because it's just harder to be in an interracial relationship. im not bashing at all. i admire the people who can take the stress. [ive taken crap from even the most surprising people, even my grandmother]
i agree. two people who are in a relationship are just people.
I am so glad you posted this.