This is a guest blog submitted by Irislily22
I hate Cosmo, but I had nothing to do, so I was flipping through it at a friend's house. There was a post entitled, "How To Communicate With Your Man." I knew this would be good.
Basically, the key to communication was to break sentences down into caveman words. Explaining that the dog needed to be taken to the vet became, "Fido. Tomorrow. Vet." Seriously?
As a guy, I'd be offended at such a portrayal of my intelligence, or lackthereof.
All the guys I like talk a lot. A female friend was really surprised by this: "What is it that you talk to them about?"
Um, everything?
I read somewhere that guys use about half as many words per day as the ladies do. We all heard the whole, "Girls talk too much; girls are communicators; guys are agents," crap. Is it true to the caveman extent?
One friend said that guys and girls often think about the same things, but he just doesn't feel the need to always say what's on his mind. How about the fact that he never says what's on his mind? Where do these thoughts go?
So guys, what does communication mean to you? Is it really the less words the better? Please. Explain. Now.
Comments (11)
Guys are more direct. Instead of: so the other day I saw so-and-so and we were talking about how we haven't seen eachother then we decided to go out and eat. We couldn't decide where to go so we did blah blah blah blah...
A guy would say: I saw so-and-so. We got lunch and caught up. It was coo.
No need to go into detail unless someone asks questions.
i was reading a study recently, dont remember what magazine it was in. but it says that men are just as talkative as women.
Wow that is stupid... If someone talked like that to me, I wouldn't know what was going on O_o
Without proper communication we'd fail as humans.
It means saying the proper carefully chosen words to convey a message that needs to be received. The shorter the transmission, the higher likelihood of the intent of the message being delivered.
Unless i am hangin out with a guy, then we say what ever dubs stuff that flies into our head because we know that it is going to come out funny.
The only time I know where being that direct matters, is when something matters or is under your skin...bc most guys I know dont pick up on "hints"
Don't try to converse with somebody in the middle of doing something, especially if it's something important. They wont be paying attention to you, because they are already involved in something else.
This caught my eye because right now I'm taking a break from my bf of 4 1/2 yrs because of lack of communication from his side.
I take it that when he doesn't talk to me but can find the time to talk/text/chat with other women ("friends") on a daily basis but keeps it hidden from him there is a problem.
So less words is not really better in this case.
i have to admit that in my experience, most guys use the short and sweet method, whereas many girls include an explanation of what happened and detailed information about all their emotions regarding the situation. however, many guys are very talkative, and there are guys who ARE talkative but who do choose to use the "short and sweet" method at times.
haha i sound so incoherent but i know what i mean in my head..... lol
I was reduced to communicating with my male partner in post-its.
I hate repetition and doing things ad nauseum. As thus, I won't complain every time I get a shitty day, but I will talk about it when asked or if the day was just that bad.
I tend toward the quiet side but eventually I open up if I know you well enough and trust you. Ask my sis and a few of my close friends, I won't shut up sometimes.
I have my hit or miss days like everyone else, but as far as picking up subtleties go, I'm oblivious. So if you feel something needs my attention, say so. Most of the time, if I'm not taking care of something, it's not because I'm a jerk, it's because we haven't seen eye-to-eye yet.
I dont say a lot really, since I dont have good communication skills.